We are given so many conflicting ideas about how to do sex or have sex. You’ve got to be dominant and lead. You’ve got to make sure you talk about and get consent for everything you do. You gotta make sure you please your partner.  You gotta focus on pleasing yourself. You’ve gotta schedule sex.  You’ve gotta be spontaneous. You should tap into your fantasies. You shouldn’t be so lost in fantasy. You should be focused solely on your partner and not think about other people. You should have sex a lot if you’re healthy. You shouldn’t be so focused on having sex all the time. You should only have sex in the context of a loving monogamous relationship. You should be free to have more than one partner. It goes on and on. How can we ever feel like we’re doing sex right?