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MAIN POINTS:

1. The homes we grow up in as well as our childhood tend to define the person we become. Those experiences shape who we are. If we were uplifted or destroyed, it then reflects on our adulthood in a big way – and our feelings of empowerment. Divorce does the same thing.

2. Any trauma, shame, feelings of inadequacy will ensure our cups are never full and as a result, we will fill it all the things that will further take our power away.

3. It is important to sort out your self-worth and empowerment as soon as you can. This means doing the work you need to do as soon as you can do it. But you have to be ready and willing to commit to the process or else it will not work. Your affirmations and gratitude will help with that.

4. One thing I read once is that sometimes friends become enemies, enemies become friends and friends become family. So do not narrow your definition of “family”. Sometimes the family we choose uplifts us more than our biological one.

5. Inter-generational trauma is real and more common than you think (that’s why it’s a new common Disney theme)! If you have experienced this, you can either keep passing it on or do better and put a stop to it with you.

TRY THIS: Reflect on the most memorable, impactful and significant moments of your childhood – good and bad – and write down how they affected the person you are today. If you need someone to talk to about it, seek out help.

POST IT NOTE: I will live an empowered life regardless of my family

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Dating and Power - Suzie is online for you at www.DivaOfLove.com

MAIN POINTS:

1. I will always maintain that those who have a full cup and full control of their power always do better in dating. No amount of dating advice or matchmaking will ever be enough for someone who is not sure of themselves, truly sure of themselves.

2. When you are empowered, not only will you be a more affirmed and grateful person, you will radiate stability which will attract the right people to you – no drama, no anxiety, no confusion. The vulnerable, by contrast, attract all the bad seeds who will do harm.

3. Take care of your baggage, make sure to fill your own cup and practice self-care / self-love BEFORE you start looking for love.

4. Live life forward while learning backwards will empower you because you will learn from your mistakes or missteps and will not repeat them. You will use them as stepping stones rather than quicksand on your journey towards love.

5. When meeting someone new, know your worth and do not let them take your power by being insecure, not confident, desperate, needy or vulnerable. Project the best version of yourself, if you cannot then keep working on you until you are there. THEN date.

TRY THIS: Write a list of the “good, bad and ugly” of your relationship history, include friendships, and then write down what made some work and some crash and burn. Look for trends which will be your lessons learned. Go forth and do better.

POST IT NOTE: I will not let dating take my power

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Friendships and Power [Be a Rockstar]

MAIN POINTS:

1. Friends are your chosen family. It is the people who should not only lift you up but also be there as support when you need it most.

2. A friend is one who overlooks your broken fence and admires the flowers in your garden is something I read once and it is such a powerful statement because a true friend will not care about your weaknesses; they will see the good in you.

3. A healthy friendship allows you to be yourself in every way without judgement or rejection for any mistakes you make. They will gently guide you or just be there to listen.

4. Experts weigh in that empowering friendships should be: empathetic, selfless, trustworthy, have shared and different interests and opinions, humorous and team players.

5. Some friendships expire and good for a season but it is ok and healthy to admit that we are incompatible with some friends after changes in our lives. Just ensure to have a peaceful exit.

TRY THIS: Take stock of all your friendships and their role in your life, do they empower you or take away some of your power?

POST IT NOTE: I will be an empowered friend

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MAIN POINTS:

1. All good things start from within you. When you take care of yourself, you can take care of others.

2. This means taking care of yourself physically and mentally (self-care) and being kind to yourself (self-love). Make yourself a priority in your life because you cannot be there for others if you are depleted.

3. Going through life with an empty cup leaves space open for unhappy experiences because it is usually the trash we collect along our journey that goes in. Filling your own “cup” with what makes you most happy and fulfilled leaves you open to much healthier interactions with others.

4. Find ways of decompressing at the end of each day to let go of the stressors before you go to sleep in order to have a more restful night. This includes writing in your feel good journal.

5. Self-care looks differently for everyone but can be creating boundaries, surrounding yourself with the right people, going to the spa, going to the gym, being active, being social, eating healthier, being spiritual, giving to others, continuously learning, and even exploring the world, speaking to a therapist to work through things that hold you back or even a coach to help you plan your pace.

TRY THIS: Find ways to enhance your self-love and self-care by filling your cup, seeking out any help that you need and making yourself and your mental health a priority. Do things for you that feel good.

POST IT NOTE: I will take care of myself better

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MAIN POINTS:

1. Empathy is defined as “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another” and you are mindful of what they are going through in a real way.

2. Empathy is an important part of being emotionally intelligent because it makes manifest the link between yourself and other people by truly listening and understanding where they are coming from.

3. Empathy gives us the ability to be compassionate with others regardless of our connection to them. It fosters healthy relationships both personally and professionally. In addition, it helps us be more altruistic towards others in their time of need.

4. To be more empathetic, challenge yourself to be mindful of how others feel. While most of us are born with this ability, some of us need to work at it. Make it an affirmation for your day.

5. Challenge your way of thinking by taking the time to understand other people’s perspectives non-judgementally, way of life, way of thinking, etc. This starts with listening and learning.

TRY THIS: Read news stories about people’s experiences, good and bad ones, and challenge yourself to be empathetic with them by putting yourself in their place. How would you feel? What emotions would you have? What would you need? Who would you need?

POST IT NOTE: I will be more empathetic with others

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It's Mental Health Week!   Suzie is available to coach you at www.DivaOfLove.com

MAIN POINTS:

1. Journaling has been studied extensively as a way to help combat mental health issues. It has proved to be an effective way of managing symptoms of depression and anxiety as well as stress.

2. Journaling can help you deal with a challenging time in your life as writing down experiences and thoughts helps shifts your perspective.

3. Start the morning off by writing down and stating out loud several times your affirmation for the day, something that will empower your day and help motivate you. Each day can be different or the same.

4. At the end of the day, write and reflect on the things from the day that you are grateful for as well as the lessons learned. Going to sleep with gratitude on your mind will help you sleep more peacefully.

5. Use the journal as your outlet during stressful as well as happy times.

TRY THIS: Purchase a journal; it does not have to be expensive. Put it by your bedside and let it be the first and last thing you do.

POST IT NOTE: I will be more mindful by journaling

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MAIN POINTS:

1. Self-sabotage is when someone deliberately destroys themselves physically, mentally, or emotionally in order to stand in the way of their own success which usually results in them undermining their goals.

2. By recognizing why you self-sabotage, you will take back your power and control by replacing it with more positive behaviors.

3. Once you recognize the reason you self-sabotage, you can change your behavior by replacing it with a new reaction.

4. Find ways to reduce your stress by finding what triggers it, what the source is, and work to either eliminate the source or learn to deal with it better.

5. Self-care an extremely important part of this. Your daily affirmations and gratitude will help keep you on track.  Fill your cup because you cannot move forward if your bank account is already in overdraft.

TRY THIS: Examine what the source of your self-sabotage is and look for patterns. Understand why you are doing it in order to take back your power.

POST IT NOTE: I will stop sabotaging myself

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MAIN POINTS:

1. Bad habits are part of every one’s life. This repetitive behavior is usually triggered by an event or emotion and provides some sort of reward.

2. Breaking a bad habit will result in you taking back your control in power and improve the trajectory of you life’s path.

3. Identifying what triggers your bad habit and what the resulting reward is will allow you to understand it better.

4. Determine if there is anything that you can do about the trigger to help minimize the impact it has on your life.

5. Eliminating the bad habit by replacing it with a good habit that gives you a similar reward gives you back your power and control.

TRY THIS: Write down one bad habit in your journal. Each time you do it put a mark and write down what triggered it and what you got out of it. Do it each time until you figure out the “why” and then make a plan to change.

POST IT NOTE: I will create good habits that empower me

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MAIN POINTS:

1. Bad choices are a normal part of life and usually end up in some sort of bad consequence.

2. In order to stop making bad decisions, you need to be more mindful and slow down your decision making process.

3. You also need to make more informed decisions. Do your research. Learn all the facts before making a decision. Think before you speak.

4. Learn from your mistakes and do not repeat them. Remember, “live life forward while understanding it backwards”.

5. Self-care rituals such as filling your cup will help you live a calmer more thoughtful life resulting in more mindfulness and less impulsiveness.

TRY THIS: Think of previous bad decisions that you have made and write down what you would have done differently. Learn from your errors. Do not repeat them.

POST IT NOTE: I will make more informed choices

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MAIN POINTS:

1. Rock bottom is when you hit your lowest point. It could be a physical, mental or emotional experience.

2. Rock bottom is not a death sentence; it can actually lead to empowerment, if you are determined to do better and be better.

3. You can take back your power by setting small goals for yourself, celebrating your small successes and with self-care and self-love.

4. Knowing your “why” will help motivate you to succeed and help you through the rough patches.

5. Be kind and gentle with yourself and never lose hope, because anything is possible when you choose to empower yourself to be your best self and do your best FOR YOU.

TRY THIS: Make a plan to climb back out. Setting specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely goals will help you do this more effectively. Also, determine what is your “why”. Seek out the help of a professional (financial advisor, life coach, therapist, etc) if necessary.

POST IT NOTE: I will go from rock bottom to power!

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