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MAIN POINTS:

1. All people   can experience some sort of trauma in their lifetime. It might be an assault,   abuse, an accident or other disastrous events. This can result in   post-traumatic stress for many.

2. Coping and   recovery is possible but takes time and patience as well as a good support   system and strategies that include taking meaning from the trauma.

3. Taking back   your power after trauma begins with self-care and self-love – essentially   filling your cup with lots of good stuff. Your daily affirmations and   gratitude will help get you started.

4. Know that   you are not alone so you do not have to sit with your loneliness and sadness.   Seeking out the company of others in a positive environment such as friends,   family or even support groups can help empower you.

5. Take care   of your physical, mental and emotional health by staying active, eating well,   being mindful of how you feel and incorporating breathing and meditation   exercises to help with coping.

TRY THIS: Take stock   of what traumas you are still holding on to and create a plan to take their   power away and empower yourself. Seek professional help if necessary.

POST IT NOTE: I will turn   my trauma to power!

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MAIN POINTS:

1. Shame is internalizing the judgement of others towards us regarding something we said or did and can result in looking at our selves negatively.

2. In order to take your power back, you need to “name your shame” and ask your self why you feel it in order to better understand the root cause of it.

3. Forgive yourself for whatever it is you feel shame for. Then, be kind and compassionate with yourself. What is done is done, it is time to take your power back by owning then releasing the power shame has over you.

4. Practice your morning affirmations and gratitude daily in order to make sense of each action because giving it meaning will take away its power over you.

5. Understand that what people think of you, judgement or not, is more about them then about you so celebrate your authentic best self.

TRY THIS: Write down and reflect on the things that you feel shame about then work towards releasing the power it has over you. Seek professional help if necessary.

POST IT NOTE: I will turn my shame into power!

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MAIN POINTS:

1. For many, saying NO is very difficult because of fear or the desire to be wanted or needed. Part of empowering yourself is to not accept anything that does not serve your growth or has a purpose in your life. Do not be a people pleaser.

2. Knowing your tribe helps you create a Teflon bubble that cannot be penetrated. Surrounding yourself with these positive people rather than toxic ones builds you up to be your best self instead of knocking you down.

3. Being powerful is also trusting your gut and yourself. You know you better than anyone ever will. Make choices that are best for your and your growth.

4. Filling your cup with self-care rituals and things that make you most happy will also bring you to a much more controlled powerful place because there will be no room for other people’s garbage.

5. Changing your narrative to one of gratitude and affirmation helps you live a more confident and fulfilled life and leads to less complaining and much less pity parties.

TRY THIS: Write down a power plan for yourself listing all the things you need to get rid of and practices you need to take on that will help empower you.

POST IT NOTE: I will take back my power

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MAIN POINTS:

1. Taking control of your life means writing your own narrative, filling your own cup and living life on your own terms.

2. Stepping outside of your comfort zone and doing something that scares you on a regular basis will help with your confidence in self.

3. Living a healthy lifestyle helps keep you in a better state of mind. Self-care rituals are important control practices that train you for bigger things.

4. Take a break from time wasters such as social media, television and other unhealthy practices because it teaches you discipline that you need to reach your bigger goals.

5. Daily affirmations and gratitude help set you on the right path to controlling your life because they will open your eyes to reality versus perception of life events.

TRY THIS: What do you believe is “out of control” in your life and what is within your control? What small steps can you take to make a change?

POST IT NOTE: I WILL take control of my life

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This week, Suzie discusses: Making your own luckTheme of the Week: Making your own luck

Today... Attracting it, or creating it!   Suzie is online @ www.DivaOfLove.com

MAIN POINTS:

1. When something happens to you, good or bad, you need to ask yourself if you attracted it or if you created it.

2. You have a significant amount of control over your life and circumstances than you give yourself credit.

3. Making your own luck consists of a lot of creating and doing, sometimes outside your comfort zone.

4. You can attract good or unfortunate things by your words and actions.

5. Gratitude plays a significant part in what you attract to yourself.

TRY THIS: Make a list of the good, bad and ugly things that have happened to you in the past. Reflect on them and what control you had over the outcome for each. Could you have made different choices? Should you have?

POST IT NOTE: I will be a creator in my own life

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MAIN POINTS:

1. By identifying your stressors, you will be able to deal with them more effectively and knowing your triggers prepares you for it before it happens.

2. Breathing exercises help you relax when you need it most. Try focusing on something while you are breathing deeply. In through your nose out through your mouth.

3. Starting each day meditating on your daily affirmation helps you visualize a better day and outcome.

4. Laughing is a great way to reduce stress. Smile more and find humor in everyday situations. It also increases your feel good hormones and immunity!

5. Being active helps you relieve many of the symptoms of stress and anxiety. Something as simple as taking a walk or stretching when you wake up helps you feel better. Start slow and work your way up to more.

TRY THIS: Create a stress-free zone by finding a calming technique that works for you. Be gentle and patient with yourself and start slow.

POST IT NOTE: I will create my stress free zone

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MAIN POINTS:

1. Stress comes when we worry too much about outcomes rather than enjoying the journey. Accepting and trusting the process helps you have a much more peaceful journey towards your goal or the outcome.

2. We need to live in the present. Accepting what is means acknowledging that some things are out of our control. Living for today helps with that.

3. Let go what was! You cannot change your past, you cannot change the decisions you made, or the traumas you experienced or anything you are not particularly proud of in your life. Stop clinging to it.

4. Have faith in what will be. It is all about trusting the process. Letting go and letting things flow takes the stress and worry out of everything. Things will be what they will be; things will end up where they end up.

5. Commit to living life forward while understanding it backwards. Keep moving, do not stop, do not turn back.

TRY THIS: Think of the thing you want to let go of that is stressing you out and write down on paper why you it is making you anxious. List all the points honestly. This will help you figure out what you need to work on.

POST IT NOTE: I am grateful for today

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MAIN POINTS:

1. Stress is your body’s way of responding to perceived emotional or physical threats. It can mean different things to different people at different times.

2. Although stress is a normal physiological response, it can become harmful and affect your physical, mental and emotional health.

3. Identifying your stress triggers is the first step to overcoming them. These are typically connected to your personal and professional relationships.

4. Coping can look different to different people. Keeping a “Feel Good” journal that you keep on your bedside table helps keep things in perspective. In it you would list your daily affirmations and gratitude.

5. Stress can affect your interpersonal relationships by making you more withdrawn, less comfortable and less close with your partner.

TRY THIS: Identify what triggers your stress and try and reflect on why. Then find a way to either avoid or better deal with your stressor.

POST IT NOTE: I will not let stress overcome me

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MAIN POINTS:

1. People with a victim mentality see life as unfair; it is them against the world. This mentality gives them an excuse for why things do not work out for them.

2. Instead of healing and learning from their trauma, those with a victim mentality use it to their perceived advantage, which more often than not sabotages their efforts at connecting in a real way with people.

3. Playing the blame game and not taking accountability are key traits of someone with victim mentality. They are never part of the solution because it is always the other person’s fault.

4. Passive aggressiveness is the specialty of those with victim mentality. They do not confront you head on; rather, they manipulate situations and then place the blame on you for being the problem all along.

5. Those with victim mentality often see themselves as morally superior to others. They are significantly judgier towards others and use this as a reason to dislike or even hate them.

§ TRY THIS: Think of any traumatic event in your life that you always go back to and determine how you use it in your life. Ask yourself why you have not let go or sought out help to move on from it. Seek therapy if necessary.

POST IT NOTE: I am not a victim

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MAIN POINTS:

1. When you seek validation from others, you are asking them (consciously or subconsciously) to validate or approve things like your choices, values, beliefs, feelings, thoughts and your actions.

2. Seeking validation is based in the need to be liked and accepted or even give you a sense of belonging.

3. Seeking validation has a direct correlation to our self-worth. The more validation we seek, the more we prioritize others and the lower our self-worth.

4. When you learn to fill your own cup, you start diminishing the importance of others’ opinion of you. Stop undermining your mental health and well-being by allowing others to put their trash in your cup.

5. Social media is a cesspool of people seeking validation. Whether it is the influencer or internet “model” selling their soul for the perfect shot or the voyeurs watching them, seeking validation affects people’s mental health.

§ TRY THIS: Reflect on what validation you seek from others and find ways to self-validate for these things.

POST IT NOTE: I will find validation in myself

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