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The most challenging part about dating is actually getting that date!

•There’s a lot of competition and not as much selection as we would hope. That’s why we tend to grab the low hanging fruit BUT the low hanging fruit isn’t always the best fruit, really you need to aim higher. 

•There are some things you do to ensure you get quality and not necessarily quantity:
- know your worth and be mentally/emotionally prepared for a real relationship
- attract a quality partner by BEING a quality partner, be who you want to date
- get out of your comfort zone, outside your normal is usually where the good stuff is (besides what you’re already doing isn’t working)
- create dating opportunities for yourself by participating in activities, ask your social circle to introduce you to someone, talk to strangers in public (safely)
- be an active dater, love isn’t going to knock on your door
- just ask! If you meet someone you like and there’s a connection, ask them to continue the conversation over coffee, a drink or wherever, even better if you’re talking about something (a type of food or movie) use that as the catalyst to ask them to do whatever it is.

•Whatever you do, don’t settle for less than your worth but it’s up to you what you accept or don’t. You accept a play boy/girl then that’s what you’ll get. You accept someone who makes excuses all the time then that’s what you’ll get. 

•You are worthy of quality love, so know your worth and date at that level.

•POST IT NOTE / MANTRA: I am worthy of quality love

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First Sleepover

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First sleepovers can be very stressful situations. You want things to go well.

•Perhaps you do things in your sleep that you don’t even know about or you wake up looking and maybe smelling gross.

•Your first priority is comfort and trust. Yours and theirs. As well as safety. This isn’t for someone you’ve just met online and never dated in person. Home dates are NOT first dates (more like a few dates in).

•Home dates almost always end up in some physical action. Make sure you are ready for something physical to happen. If you’re not ready or willing to make it physical, then skip the home date / sleepover until you are (just to be safe). 

•So you’re ready, now what? Here are some things to keep in mind before your home date:
- make sure your house is clean and well stocked with necessary amenities, especially the bathroom 
- make your guest feel at home as much as possible (if there is something you don’t want them to see or touch then hide it away), leave room on the dresser and bathroom counter, have drinks and food handy
- have your bedroom outfit ready as well as anything else you’ll need (don’t count on them to be prepared)

•Most important is not to stress about it and just have fun. Have no expectations. Don’t over think. Be safe.

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How can I be a better flirt?

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Men and women flirt differently. Women tend to be more subtle, batting eyelashes, playing with hair.  Men are more likely to make bold gestures (on the most part).

•While some prefer the passive or cautious approach, I want to encourage singles to take an active approach to flirting and be better flirts showing someone that they are actually interested. 

•You never know unless you try! Don’t worry about rejection, it sucks and maybe a blow to the ego but remember they don’t really know you. They are rejecting your advance, not you personally.

•So how to flirt, well the most important aspect about flirting, really, is the intention behind it. 

•If you like someone, use their name when communicating with them, compliment them (clean compliments), ask about them and their interests, perhaps touching lightly unless they say no or pull back, standing closer than normal and of course smiling. Remember if they do not want you in their space respect that. Use their body language as their guide.

•Some top tips that work for my clients are:
1. Know your end goal before approaching someone and go for it if you get the right vibe from them.
2. Look good, smell good and be confident (not arrogant or cocky).
3. Smile a lot, stand up straight and have open body language.
4. Make the person of interest feel like they’re the only one in the room, make them feel special, important.
5. Respect boundaries and consent. Don’t be pushy.

•Flirting takes practice but it’s about just going out there and trying. You don’t know unless you try, right? RIGHT! 

•POST IT NOTE / MANTRA: I will take dating chances

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Has someone left you high and dry? Totally unexpected? Or maybe you want to end things in a dead end relationship? It is natural for things to end sometimes, it happens, not every liaison will work out.

•It’s totally hard and sucks big time if someone does end things or ghosts you.

•However, if someone does not want to be in your life why would you still want them there?  

•We have this nasty habit of remembering the good times and conveniently forgetting the bad. I always encourage singles getting over someone when they fondly remember someone to right away pinch themselves to remember the pain as well and to get back on track.

•No one wants to be rejected, I get that, but don’t let your ego bring you back somewhere that isn’t good for you.

•You’re worthy of someone who wants to be with you. Stop chasing what’s not meant for you and open yourself up to something better to come.

•I’m also a firm believer of no second chances because whatever went wrong once will go wrong again. Be strong and move on. You deserve better.

•POST IT NOTE / MANTRA: I will not define myself by the acceptance or rejection of someone else

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I have a question for you... I am curious if my marriage is going to survive me in-laws moving in with us? 

We are already on shaky ground.

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A lot of people are so confused about if someone likes them or not. What do I say about that? Well if you know, you know. 

•If you are confused and not feeling so confident about it then it is your gut telling you things may not be there yet.

•If someone likes you, they’ll want to get to know you (in person, in real life), they will want to speak to you and spend time with you. Their body language will be obvious.

•They will also care what they look and smell like around you. They want to make a good impression.

•It’s actually pretty obvious, plain and simple. Their words and actions match and you feel good about it.

•Wondering if they actually like you, well, listen to your gut and go with the flow. Don’t act desperate if they aren’t acting like you feel they should. Don’t blow up their phone if they don’t call. Be mature about it, not insecure.

•If things don’t progress then that’s totally OK. Know your worth and don’t chase someone who doesn’t equally want to be with you. Period.

•POST IT NOTE / MANTRA: I will listen to my gut when meeting someone new.

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Winning the dating race (Keeping it slow and steady)

In order to protect the longevity of a relationship, new couples should enter into the relationship slowly and get to know each other at a slower pace. 

•I have always said that a fire that burns fast and hot will burn out just as fast. It has happened to me and it has happened to most of you. Admit it. 

•Sometimes you meet someone, have instant chemistry, everything moves super fast and then BAM it’s over before it even began, what happened? Well you ate your whole cake in one sitting.

•Slow and steady still wins the race when dating. Court each other. Actually, go on dates. Get to know each other one-step at a time. Enjoy the process without worrying about the outcome.

•I know that loneliness gets the better of people, and leads them to make poor decisions because they crave that attention, the touch.

•In my experience, someone really likes you and wants to get to know you in a mature lasting way, and if they have good intentions, they will typically want to take their time knowing you.

•POST IT NOTE / MANTRA: Too hot + too fast = no long-term relationship.

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