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Dear Matthew,

I am overwhelmed by the clutter in my house.

Every time I try to tackle this disaster I feel like I’m just moving the mess from one room to the next and back again.

I thought the stay at home orders during Covid would inspire me to get things done finally and yet here I am now… Looking at the same mess, if not a worse mess than when Covid began.

How do I tackle this?   And how do I stop beating myself up over it?

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How do I let go of a past love when there is still a strong attachment?

(Ask Your Dating Expert Suzie)

1. It usually is the same story, you meet someone who you perceive to be exactly what you were looking for in a partner, this person said the right things and did the right things ... or so it seemed. There were so many red flags waving around that it’s almost impossible to see straight.

2. Often times we can't let go because there is something tethering us to that other person like something they're doing but more often than not it's all you. You're the one holding on, and you need to ask yourself why you're still attached. False Hope? Loneliness?

3. I’ve been there! Speaking to a professional helped me realize why it was that I was so attached, the funny thing was as much as I wanted to blame them it wasn't about them at all - it was about me. They were like a drug for me and I was, for lack of a better word, addicted.

4. Here’s what I did and what you can do to let go for real this time:

5. Take inventory of past relationships.

6. Build your confidence and know your worth.

7. Surround yourself with good people who care about you.

8. Be your best self!

9. Be happily single.

Remember that some people will always have a special place in our hearts but that doesn't mean they deserve a special place in our lives.

Suzie is at www.SingleDatingDiva.com

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Dear Matthew,

Is this a kink or am I weird?

If anyone calls me sweetie I get extremely giddy… Like warm feelings all over kind of giddy. Even if it's my friends who call me that I have the same reaction.

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Dear Matthew,

I have spent my entire adult life in a relationship with one person and we broke up. 

I quite literally don't know what to do.

We had been together for 5 years now. 

Our breakup was painful, mostly because we both still very much love each other and want the best for the other... 

Our life just grew apart I guess. 

My problem is that I can't let go of him, all I think about is that some day we will find each other again and fall in love once again. Since I was 17, I was dreaming of marrying this man and it looked like it's gonna be a reality for a very long time... So now I'm here, with all my plans and dreams being placed on one person broken.

 I'm just looking for some advice from those of you who are more experienced in break ups, how do you get yourself together the fastest? 

Need some impartial advice?  Email [email protected]

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TODAY... Where do you stand?

(How to know where you stand with someone)

§ Often times we can end up in “relationship limbo” because we don’t want to rock the boat but it’s important to know if they’re a significant or insignificant other.

§ Some important things to ask yourself: are you an important part of their daily life (not just texting)? Do they include you in important life decisions? Do they value your opinion? Are you public or on the down low? Are your encounters more than sex (like going out, doing stuff in public)?

§ Not every liaison will result in a relationship and that’s ok, but what’s not ok is leading someone on or being on different pages.

Never assume that you’re exclusive unless you’ve both stated that you are so have that discussion when you feel it’s the right time (usually after a few dates).

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Dear Matthew,

My 13 year old son spent $312.53 USD online without my permission. On light sabers.

The company refuses to cancel the order and refund my money… What should I do?

WE WANT YOUR QUESTIONS... [email protected]

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Dear Matthew,

I have had scary dreams where I am being abused, left alone etc. I really feel terrible at night and wish there is someone by my side. But there's none at that time. What do I do? I need some help.

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Dear Matthew,

Tomorrow I have to get a blood test and I HATE needles. How can I get over the anxiety and make it an easier experience?

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TODAY:
How do I avoid an awkward or embarrassing moment?

§ Out of Control Bodily   Functions - This could include: bad gas, needing to run to the toilet   often, nausea, sweating too much, body odor, snot in your nose, bad breath,   too much cologne, women problems, runny nose, dandruff

§ Know your bodily limits and if   you’re unsure about going out don’t go out and don’t expose yourself to   gastro triggers.

§ Food & Drink Mishaps - This   could include: spilling food and/or drink on self or date, food in teeth,   eating something messy

§ Spilling is typically an   accident, just be careful and make safe food choices. If you’re unsure about   your post-food teeth situation excuse yourself and go to the restroom.

§ Physical Contact Conundrums - This   could include: to kiss or not to kiss decisions, going in for a kiss or   hug and the other person flinches, touching their hand and the person pulls   away, awkwardly bad kiss, crying

§ Pay very close attention to   non-verbal cues from the other person before making a move, they should be   leaning towards you and showing they are really interested. Respect   boundaries, especially if you’re unsure.

§ Oversharing from Nervousness -   This could include: telling your whole life story, talking about your ex   and how horrible (or great) they were, displaying your baggage for all to   see, talking about all your dates gone wrong, talking about intimate topics,   sharing your physical problems (especially gross ones like what happens when   you eat dairy), demonstrating victim mentality, making it a pity party

§ Be prepared before you go on a   date with topics like current affairs, interesting life stories and watch for   verbal cues from your date to gauge their interest level. No need to tell   them everything right away, especially personal things.

§ Wardrobe Malfunctions - This   could include: your zipper being down, your shirt being unbuttoned, your   skirt caught in your underwear, dirty clothes, broken heels, uncomfortable   shoes or clothes

§ Make sure you wear   comfortable, well-fitting, clean attire that is appropriate for the occasion.   Do a mirror check before going out.

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