In this week’s episode, I’m discussing the technique that I give to all my coaching clients when it comes to dating. As a healthy feminine energy woman, you have an “opening” that you want to fill and you are looking for the most qualified applicants you can find. With that being said, you will start to date men to disqualify them in the first three dates.

This will require that you keep your emotions in check in the beginning so that you can properly assess each suitor. Use your rational mind instead of your chemistry or connection, in the beginning, to make sure you are NOT getting anything from your “I Don’t Want” list. Usually, you can determine this in the first three dates but it may take a little longer.

Be sure to listen and watch to see what he says and does to make sure that everything aligns. Asking a few questions here and there can be helpful, however, you don’t want him to feel as if he is being interrogated! In time, you will know if he is a good candidate or not.

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In this week’s episode, I’m talking about the “yellow” flags that you should be looking out for when dating or getting to know a man. This subject doesn’t get enough attention and I believe it’s why we miss the “red” flags. Many of those “red” flags started out as “yellow” flags!

Everyone will have some of their own versions of “yellow” flags, but today I am sharing some of mine and a few I want you to be aware of also. Remember, “yellow” flags are telling us to “proceed with caution”. You should be especially aware of these and if you see any patterns, then that will tell you if you want to officially STOP, or move forward with a man.

You may also address these “yellow” flags by using your feminine communication skills. I personally like to do this so that there is no doubt in my mind if I must reject a man that I gave him every honest opportunity to explain himself. You want to be sweet but also assertive in telling him what you “see” and how it makes you feel.

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In this week’s episode, I must give you this disclaimer: some toes may be stepped on with this episode! I work with so many female clients and they all say they want a high value, 3 percent man who is over 6 feet tall, is fit, educated and makes 6 figures! Then I have the difficult task of asking them, “What is it about YOU that would make a high-value man want you?” Yes, I know that in the eyes of your mother and your girlfriends you are wonderful, however, a man’s standards are totally different than theirs.

I’ve had to tell my female clients that healthy masculine men don’t necessarily see their degrees, their home, their car, and their high profile career as assets to having a healthy relationship. Don’t get me wrong; a man wants to know that you can take care of yourself if need be and that you’re responsible for your obligations. They want to know that if you have children, they are being well taken care of and they want you to manage the bills in your household in a timely manner.

Most men are initially attracted to what they SEE first. I tell my ladies to accentuate your most feminine qualities and “package” it in a way that is appealing. Soft and sensuous and sweet smelling is a good start! Then follow that up with your feminine communication skills and lots of eye contact and smiles. Lastly, make a memorable impression on a man with your open and receptive and positive attitude. Make him feel good about HIMSELF when he’s with you and you’ve just struck a home run!

I want you to get CLEAR on what it is you say you want, so I am giving you my Self Discovery Relationship Tool. Creating these three lists has the power to change EVERYTHING when it comes to attracting a high value man. Take your time when completing this list. Especially when you are thinking about your needs. Know this; you will NOT get everything you want and you should NOT settle for what you don’t want!

In this week’s episode, I’m discussing the number one requirement to have a healthy relationship with someone. What is it you ask? Well, it’s one of the most HATED words I know and that is CHANGE! Yes, dare I say it, change is required for you to have a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationships, romantic or otherwise!

Why do people struggle with this word? Because it means they will have to DO something (or in some cases STOP doing something). Either way, change is not the dirty word you think it is. Change is all about growth. Change is all about compromise. People who embrace change and are easily adaptable to it are the most successful in relationships and in life.

It was famed relationship therapist Esther Perel who stated: “Stuckness is more a quality of an interaction with a situation, with oneself, with a person, with a mental belief system, then the specific belief system itself. It’s the rigidity, it’s the unbending nature. Stuck is when stability goes rigid. Every system straddles stability and change. Too much stability and you get stuck. Too much change, and you can go chaotic”.

I want to inspire each of you to do the delicate dance between stability and change. Life will require you to be adaptable. Remember, the only real constant IS change! I believe nothing truly stays the same except for Jesus Christ. The Bible tells us that “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever” (Hebrews 13:8, NIV). So expect for just about everything else in your life to change at some point. You may be able to prepare for this change, and it may be a surprise to you. Just know that a healthy relationship will require you to change at many points within it. Embrace it!

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In this week’s episode, I’m giving you one of the most POWERFUL tools you can learn to make a man feel loyal to you. You may have guessed it by now: It’s learning how to accept him!

Here’s a tip though; find a man that you really LIKE and RESPECT and this will make it easy to accept him. Men often complain to me that women are always trying to “change them”. I tell men that is because women are natural multipliers. They see the potential in everything and everyone.

Women often meet a man and instantly think of ways to “make him better”. What a man really wants is for you to like and accept him just as he is and then he is more open to growing and changing.

Acceptance is one of the most difficult things for us to do. Remember, accepting doesn’t mean we agree with everything or approve all the time. It just means “it is what it is”!

I want to share with you two powerful resources. The first one is the worksheet “Words Every Man Wants To Hear From A Woman”. Use these phrases often with the men in your life and watch your relationships with them change for the better! The second one is from Dr. John Gray’s book “Mars and Venus On A Date”. It’s the list of “A Man’s Needs” and it’s important that you study this list and start to apply it to your relationships with men.

Leave me a comment below and tell me what’s the HARDEST thing to accept about a man?

In this week’s episode, I’m answering a question from a listener on overcoming her insecurities within her relationship. I get this question from women who say they feel jealous or envious about their boyfriend’s ex or his female friends. One thing about insecurity is this; it can only be cured by going INSIDE of yourself and getting curious. It’s important to ask yourself: “What is going on inside of me about this?”

Many of my clients will say that their boyfriends will accuse them of being “insecure” when in actuality, his behavior is crossing a boundary. You must be completely secure in yourself and your life to call him on his behavior in this case.

Jealousy and envy are normal emotions that we will all feel at one point in time or another. It’s when these emotions are running our lives and everything that we do that it’s time to go inside and heal. Take a listen to get some tips on how to do just that!

 

In this week’s episode, I wanted to give you some tips on starting your journey to becoming a “Feminine Energy” woman. I’m not sure if you are new to my podcast or have been listening since day one. Here is one thing to know about me and my approach to coaching women; Feminine Energy is everything! I believe that about 85% of women are naturally feminine energy women. They want to lean back and surrender to a strong, healthy masculine man. They want to be able to express how they are FEELING at any given moment and want those feelings to be CHERISHED. They truly desire intimacy and vulnerability over trying to control a man.

They don’t want to pursue a man, plan the dates, pay all the bills in the house, or take care of all of their children’s needs alone. They don’t want to THINK of everything that must be done outside of their day jobs. They don’t want to feel as if what everyone else wants comes before them. They don’t want to carry the weight of the relationship on their own.

Our modern-day society has sold you a LIE! They have made you believe that putting on your “masculine energy” hat is the way to have everything you’ve ever wanted, including a loving relationship with an emotionally healthy man. You’ve decided that leveling the playing field and “doing what men do” is how you will get what you want. This take-charge approach may get you the promotion at work or the corner office, but it will NOT get you the cherishing you so desire from a masculine man. It will not get you a loving man who is giving to you and doing for you; a man whose greatest desire is to see you happy.

Remember this: “Feminine Energy” women have great influence. And it will NEVER involve trying to strong-arm or “make” a man do anything! Continue following this podcast and find out how to have MORE while doing LESS! Using your powers of “feminine surrender” to attract and keep the amazing life and love that you desire!

Here is a list from Dr. John Gray on “What A Woman Needs”. Is this list accurate for you? Leave me a comment below.

In this week’s episode, I’m discussing the mindset women often take into their new relationship or dating experience after a break-up. I’ve been guilty of it and I know you have to! Yes, I’m talking about treating the new potential guy like he is going to hurt you! Or cheat on you. Or ghost you. Or isn’t going to commit. Whatever it is that you last experienced or perhaps in the last few relationships, you think could happen again and so you begin to form what is called the “confirmation bias”.

It’s where you have a thought and you think that thought over and over again and then you (subconsciously) start to co-create that reality for real! You will begin to look for things that will “confirm” what you already know. And before you know it; BOOM!! He’s a liar! Or a cheater! Or just an inconsiderate jerk! And you are SO self-righteous because you just KNEW this would happen, right?

Well, you just created a real live self-fulfilling prophecy; that’s how powerful our thoughts are. I strongly encourage you to use all of that power for GOOD and not EVIL. Start telling yourself that this guy before you; this new guy, is NOT the last guy. He’s different and even better than that, he didn’t come to hurt you (at least not on purpose).

Remember that in order for you to win at love and dating and relationships, you will have to have a paradigm shift. This looks like a fundamental change in your approach or underlying assumptions about love and men. Working with a love mentor or dating coach can help you to identify your “love blocks” and make healthy choices moving forward from a place of consciousness and awareness. If you’re interested in a FREE 15-minute consult, CLICK HERE!

In this week’s episode, we are discussing the signs that a man is about to completely waste your valuable time! Ladies, I’m giving you the game to determine UP FRONT if a man has no real intentions for you or the relationship. I get asked often how a woman can determine if a man is not up for anything “real” or if he just wants to “have fun”. Well, it’s really simple to figure out and you can do this within DAYS, not weeks or months of getting to know him. Get out of your fantasies in your head with a man, and start to use your mind for what it’s really for; to qualify and vet a man.

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In this week’s episode, I’m addressing some of the questions and comments I have been fielding from my clients about exes and old friends who have been contacting them since we have been in a shelter in place order. I, myself, have had several exes call or text me and I have remained in a strong “no contact”. I have encouraged my clients to do the same.

What I want you to understand about this unprecedented time is that since people are not able to go about their life as usual, they will default to seeking energy from whomever they can. Many men feel that it’s easier to get an ex to entertain them or sleep with them than to start fresh with a new woman. And based on what I have seen, many of them are right! Also, many of us (myself included) get nostalgic when we have a lot of extra time on our hands AND we are spending time alone. This creates a “halo effect” of sorts, where you can only remember the good in that person, not the bad!

Whatever you do, DON’T let the nostalgia have you backsliding on all of your great progress. Use this time to dive even deeper into becoming the best YOU possible. Check out my resources list here and start ordering some of these books and audios to get new knowledge. And if you need to work with a coach, consider working with me to develop the healthy feminine energy skills you’re going to need to have it all without doing it all! You can also register for my free Feminine Power Mastery coaching call in the month of April here.