Struggle Care

09: Q&A: A Traumatically Clean House

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I have the perfect person to answer a question about “trauma cleaning” as a result of being raised by a parent who was emotionally and verbally abusive about keeping a clean house. This question came from Maria, a TikTok follower, and I’m jumping into this topic in today’s episode with my guest, Amanda Dodson. Join us!


Show Highlights:

  • Why this is a common feeling for many people when they sense barriers around care tasks
  • A good first step: Try to separate the behavioral home care task from the interpersonal problem with the parent
  • Why you have to decide how YOU want your home to be for your own comfort and safety–not how your parent would want it to be
  • Why it’s important to have compassion for yourself and awareness of what you need in your space to function well
  • How to identify what you need from your space and use a triage approach to get there
  • How to have your environment and emotions “meet” at a halfway point
  • How to take small steps toward organizing that work for you and your family


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