What if the things you believe about life, love, success, and happiness are backwards? In today’s episode, we’re diving into 10 paradoxes: the little plot twists, contradictions, and life surprises I wish someone had warned me about. Learning these the hard way cost me a lot of time and heartbreak, and my hope is that sharing them now saves you some of yours. Hit play for a big, juicy reality check.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

01:23 1. The likability paradox

03:12 2. The paradox of choice

06:09 3. The paradox of knowledge

06:52 The Dunning-Kruger Effect

08:22 4. The paradox of failure

09:12 Not choosing is a choice (Jean-Paul Sartre)

10:33 5. The paradox of tolerance (Karl Popper)

11:03 James Baldwin on agreeing to disagree

12:20 6. The paradox of moving on

12:46 Ironic process theory

14:19 7. The paradox of pleasure

15:37 Aristotle's virtue-based happiness

16:08 Viktor Frankl on happiness

17:07 The dopamine trap

18:03 8. The paradox of freedom

18:33 Self-determination theory

20:02 The dizziness of freedom (Kierkegaard)

20:52 9. The paradox of shadow sides (Carl Jung)

22:54 10. The paradox of the comfort zone

24:46 Lightning round recap

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