Captains & Coaches Podcast

127 - The Praise Trap: Hidden Costs of Conditional Confidence


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Most coaches don't praise enough. The ones who do often praise the wrong way without ever knowing it.

In this episode, Tex breaks down why coaches stay silent when athletes get it right, the three mindset blocks holding that silence in place, and a concept from neuro-linguistic programming that changes how you think about the words you use around your team. You'll learn the three distinct types of praise (and why the one most coaches rely on is actually the weakest), why an overheard compliment can shape a kid's identity more than anything said to their face, and the warning that comes with that same power: it works exactly the same way in reverse.

Then the episode turns to the trap waiting on the other side of good praise. Drawing on trauma-informed research into performance-based confidence, Tex unpacks how praise tied only to outcomes can quietly teach an athlete that their worth has to be re-earned every single day, and what to do instead so the confidence you're building actually holds up when the scoreboard doesn't cooperate.

If you've ever wondered whether you're praising your athletes enough, or praising them in a way that's actually working, this episode is for you.

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