In Part 2 of this conversation, Emma Murray and Dwayne Kerrigan move from awareness into practical performance tools. Emma introduces one of the most powerful distinctions in high performance: critique versus criticism.

She explains why self-criticism is a survival response that quietly destroys confidence, slows learning, and locks people into repeated mistakes. Through examples from elite sport, sales, leadership, parenting, and everyday life, Emma breaks down how to review performance by examining the entire process — thoughts, feelings, actions, and results — rather than attacking outcomes or identity.

The conversation also dives into fear-based leadership, tunnel vision, stress responses, and why people perform worse when they feel watched, pressured, or unsafe. Emma shares actionable techniques to regain presence under pressure, including breath, body awareness, and “small focus” anchors that keep the mind out of fight-or-flight. This episode equips leaders, entrepreneurs, and performers with a repeatable framework for learning faster, leading better, and performing consistently — even when stakes are high.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 – Emma on self-kindness under pressure and stopping the internal threat response

01:00 – Dwayne intro + framing Part 2: turning attention and mindset into action

02:00 – Critique over criticism: how thoughts drive feelings, actions, and results

03:30 – Outcome focus vs process focus and why pressure hijacks performance

05:05 – How to critique the entire performance process (thinking, feeling, doing)

06:40 – Turning failure into growth by extracting the right lessons

08:00 – Why quarterly reviews fail and daily reflection matters

09:45 – Coaching teams beyond checklists and task correction

11:25 – A-game vs B-game language and building awareness in teams

13:40 – Leaders, fear, control, and psychological safety

15:30 – Running toward outcomes vs accessing creativity and big-picture thinking

17:30 – The “flashlight of attention” metaphor for leaders and parents

19:40 – Stress responses, presence, and anchoring attention (breath, feet, listening)

22:00 – Training attention as a performance muscle

25:45 – Stress cycles, recovery, and sustainable performance

29:10 – Introduction to the Closed Eye Process and presence training

32:00 – Deep dive: critiquing vs criticizing explained step-by-step

36:30 – Survival wiring, subconscious files, and performance memory

39:30 – The CHIMP brain, danger signals, and slipping into B-game

42:30 – Small controllable focus as the pathway back to A-game

Key Takeaways:

1. Critique examines process, not personal worth
2. Thoughts drive feelings, feelings drive actions, actions drive results
3. Growth comes from extracting learnings — not from failure alone
4. Fear narrows focus and creates tunnel vision
5. Small, controllable focus prevents fight-or-flight
6. Connection reduces fear and restores execution

Quotes:

“Failure does not give you growth if you are not actually eliciting the lessons from it.” - Emma Murray

“Feet on floor, bum on chair … Bring your attention to your feet, your bum, your breath … those things are gonna anchor you back into the present moment” - Emma Murray

“When all this fails, use your breath” - Emma Murray

“The human mind cannot carry two thoughts simultaneously.” - Dwayne Kerrigan

Resources Mentioned

1. Critique Over Criticism Framework
2. A-Game / B-Game Performance Model
3. CHIMP Paradox – Dr. Steve Peters
4. Closed-Eye Process

Emma is sought-after by ASX 100 corporations, executives, and the education sector for her unique High Performance Mindfulness practice that drives sustainable improvements in performance, by providing the skills and tools that enable participants to bring their 'A-Game' to high-pressure moments.

Website: https://www.emmamurray.com.au/

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