Struggle Care

13: Q&A: Building Routines for Self-help Rejects

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Today’s episode is a Q & A, so chill out while you listen, and take the time to do something kind for yourself, whatever that may be. I’ve been asked for advice about habits and discipline for neurodivergent people, which may be difficult for neurotypical people to understand. My message is that you are not broken if you haven’t yet found what works best for your brain. Let’s talk about it.


Show Highlights:

  • Why we need to begin with an explanation of the terms neurodivergent and neurotypical
  • Why it is very common for self-help motivation to fall short for neurodivergent people
  • How a neurodivergent person approaches routines and habits in different ways
  • Why I (as an ADHD person) am motivated by pleasure, projects, pressure/panic, patterns
  • Why it’s OK to realize that morning routines don’t work best for you
  • Why there is a difference between routine and rhythm/pattern
  • How I work around my house in patterns–not routines that are time-bound
  • How patterns can help circumvent “executive dysfunction” (Want to know more? Check out Episode 1 with Dr. Lesley Cook at www.strugglecare.com.)
  • What to look out for when your care tasks always require “pushing a boulder up a hill” energy
  • How I can make myself more “disciplined” when I have structure
  • Why you are NOT a self-help reject if you haven’t found what works best for you


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