A Voice and Beyond

#137. The Problem with People Pleasing


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In this week’s episode, we are discussing people pleasing, a problem that most of us struggle with. A "people pleaser" can best be defined as someone having a strong desire to please other people even if pleasing others comes at their own expense. What most people do not realize is that when they are saying yes to someone else, sadly, there is a good chance they are saying no to themselves.

In this episode, I offer some tools to help create the self-awareness required to catch yourself out in those moments when you feel that pressure to please other people. These tools are designed to help you overcome that terrible pressure that starts to override your ability to put yourself first. I share ideas that will help you set healthy boundaries and prevent common issues that can be the consequence of people-pleasing. Such as having low self-esteem, constantly needing approval from others, learned helplessness, or the fear of rejection or criticized by others.

I intend to help you understand that it is possible to set healthy boundaries in any form of relationship, personal or professional, without guilt. You can interrupt this default behavior of being a people pleaser and create a different pattern of behavior that allows you to put your goals and needs first. You can change and start making conscious decisions in your day-to-day life that truly empower you. It is time for you to step out of the wings and take center stage in your life.

In this Episode

2:30 – Introduction
4:16 - What is a people pleaser?
6:51 - Negative impacts of being a people pleaser.
9:41 - Healthy balance and setting healthy boundaries.
18:26 - Dealing with the pain of discomfort.
21:40 - The price of being a people pleaser.
23:54 - People around you are not living the same kind of life as you do.
27:01 - Find your people! 


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