Today we are redefining and reimagining the Erotic. What is it, why is it so powerful, and how can we bring more of it into our lives? We will hear clips from Audre Lorde’s seminal essay, The Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power, as well as words of wisdom from adrienne maree brown, and Esther Perel. I hope this makes you feel enlivened, and invites more Erotic experiences into your life. I dream of a society rooted in aliveness instead of death, especially of the most marginalized. Let's dream together.

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Key quote from episode: 

“What makes you feel alive? Keep a note on your phone of moments, experiences, people, that enliven you"

Time stamps:

(00:00): Intro to The Erotic

(07:09): Intro to Audre Lorde 

(13:33): Esther Perel on the Erotic 

(17:17): What makes you feel alive? 

(19:10): Public parks as Erotic spaces 

(22:11): adrienne maree brown on Audre Lorde’s Uses of the Erotic

(22:55): Love & The Erotic ft. bell hooks

(33:66): Audre Lorde on how the Erotic functions in her life 

(36:30): Closing

Sources mentioned: 

Essay: Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power by Audre Lorde

Essay reading: Audre Lorde reads Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic As Power

Website: Adrienne maree brown

Book: Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown

Book: Pleasure Activism by adrienne maree brown

Book: All About Love by bell hooks

YouTube: What is Erotic Intelligence? (Mindvalley Talks) by Esther Perel

TED Talk: Rethinking infidelity by Esther Perel

Discussion: Reimagining Desire post on my Substack

Essays on porn by adrienne maree brown: Liberating Desire & The Pleasure Dome

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