Blended Family Breakthrough

179. Conquer Fear and Embrace Your Blend with Confidence and Clarity


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Fear is often driven by the unknown…

…and it's no surprise that many couples struggle with all the unknown factors of blending.  Ambiguity is simply part of the blending journey.

All the ambiguity can quickly lead to fear:

  • fear of what might happen if blending doesn't go well
  • fear of failing.  
  • fear of how the kids might react 
  • fear of the impact of an unsupportive Ex Spouse

When it comes to blending a family, there's no shortage of realities that can create valid fear and real concerns.

But blending can sometimes trigger fear that's somewhat irrational or anticipatory too.

All of this can leave couples feeling overwhelmed, confused and stuck!  

They want to move forward and build a life together, but they promptly pump the breaks on blending when ambiguity triggers debilitating fear.

In this episode, we'll explore effective ways to work through ambiguity and fear, so that you can conquer it and embrace your blend with the clarity and confidence you need to move forward.

You'll Discover:

  • The importance of exploring your valid fears and concerns before you blend
  • Some "yellow" and "red" flags to consider
  • How to separate valid fear from irrational, anticipatory fear
  • How to manage ambiguity for yourself and your kids

Resources from this Episode:

  • Book by Ron Deal:  Preparing to Blend:  The Couple's Guide to Becoming a Smart Stepfamily 
  • Episode 5. How to Get Over the Hurts and Triggers From Your Past
  • Episode 109. Preparing to Blend (with Special Guest Ron Deal)
  • Episode 105. What Powerful Traits Do You Need to Successfully Blend and Stay United? 
  • Episode 92.  At a Loss and Feel Defeated Because the Kids Stubbornly Refuse to Blend?
  • Episode 93.   How to Overcome Power Struggles When  Kids Oppose Your Decision to Remarry
  • Episode 141. Can My Kids Be Emotionally Harmed by Blended Family Dynamics? 

Ready for some extra support?

We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

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