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September 30, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – We’re Not Throwing Out the Computer!
Part One: Guest Interview
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute (PCI) and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with PCI Certified Parent Coach® Rhonda Moskowitz. Rhonda, a mother of three, has been working with parents for over 30 years—as a special education teacher, early childhood administrator and currently as a PCI Certified Parent Coach®. Rhonda works with parents who are overwhelmed and say “I just don’t know what to do any more!” Parents find Rhonda when they have tried many things, but nothing has changed. She helps moms and dads create practical solutions for their parenting concerns. In fact, her parent coaching company is called: Practical Solutions Parent Coaching. Rhonda works with parents who have children between the ages of birth and 18 and she also works with parents who have children who have been diagnosed with ADHD. Like all PCI trained parent coaches, Rhonda helps moms and dads focus on what is working. And then from there client and coach create a picture of what they want things to look like. Once that is attained, the coaching centers on practical solutions to get parents to the life they want to lead.
This podcast centers on the fact that one thing we know for sure, screen technology is here to stay. We can’t throw it out, ignore it, or pretend it isn’t there. In fact, we wouldn’t want to. Right? It’s a high-tech world with lots of benefits most of us enjoy. Yet, our high-tech world has its pitfalls as we know. Kids preoccupied with screen technologies miss out on other important areas of their lives. Media message are often outside the bounds of our own values. The proliferation of mobile devices and tablets means our kids are always connected. With all this going on, it’s becoming increasingly difficult for parents to set boundaries and balance their kids’ lives. That’s because most moms and dads today have no roadmap for how to parent in the midst of a rapidly changing technological revolution.
This podcast presents a practical roadmap. First it begins with Rhonda and Gloria discussing what an ideal use of screen technologies might look like for most families. Then it outlines reasonable use with many excellent examples and do-able activities—even within a busy day. Rhonda emphasizes the importance of getting clear ourselves and knowing for sure what limits we want for our kids and why. That’s the first important step—and often times, the hardest. But once that is accomplished, ideals flow fresh like a mountain stream, because parents have the clarity they need to not only set boundaries and rules, but to follow-up consistently.
Tune in for practical ideas you can use today that will support you family’s healthy media habits, and join us for a few laughs, as well. We are sure you will relate!
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
Last week I began coaching Lindsey, mom of two daughters, Charlie, age 5.5 and Olive, age, 2.5. Lindsey is coming to coaching for three basic reasons:
• She wants to provide more activities for the girls outside of screen technologies.
• She wants to deal pro-actively with the school and her daughter’s tutor who are demanding screen use for Charlee who’s only a kindergartner. Lindsey doesn’t wholeheartedly agree with this and but she wants to deal with the issues positively—in a cooperative way.
• Being a pro-active mom, she wants to prepare for the girls’ future use of screen technologies as they get older.
In this session Lindsey explains the strengths of each of her daughters, along with her own strengths. She shares poignant stories as well. We will harness these strengths when we address her challenges later in our Design Phase of the coaching. For now, we are developing a firm foundation based on Lindsey’s many strengths and the special qualities in each of her daughters. Tune in for an uplifting session!
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September 23, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – Young Children and the Sensory World
Part One: Guest Interview
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute (PCI) and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with PCI Certified Parent Coach® Alice Hanscam, owner of Denali Parent Coaching. Alice has worked with families for over 30 years. As a PCI Certified Parent Coach® she walks alongside parents as they gain confidence and joy in their parenting and in all their relationships. For Alice, Parent Coaching is a life calling—one that inspires her daily. She welcomes all who understand the enormity of their job as a parent, encouraging them to join her in creating the family life they desire.
Young children are hands-on. They thrive when immersed in the bouillabaisse of the rich textures, smells, tastes and sounds of the natural world. In fact, brain science clearly demonstrates that young brains need sensory experiences to grow a healthy neural network.
Unfortunately, touch screen technology reduces the child’s sensory experience to fingertip-sensation and 2-dimensional pictures—certainly not the same—not nearly the same as real world experiences. Much is lost and too much is at stake to allow screens to displace our children’s play in the real
world.
In this podcast, parents will find practical information and simple, yet effective ideas for transforming their children’s daily life into rich sensory experiences for optimal development and healthy growth of brain, mind, body—despite the challenges in our world of screens. Free playtime is valuable time—necessary time, in fact. We don’t have to let screens displace sensory experiences in children’s lives. Tune in for do-able activities. Start today to make small changes for big impact in a young child’s life and future.
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
I begin coaching Lindsey, mom of two daughters, Charlie, age 5.5 and Olive, age, 2.5. Lindsey explains the three reasons she is coming to coaching, part of which is to prepare her daughters for how she wants to address digital issues with them as they get older. Lindsey is a thoughtful young mother with some interesting stories. Tune in to find out her practical, inspiring ideas for parenting well in a digital world.
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September 16, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – Parental Decisions About Video Games
Part One: Guest Interview
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute (PCI) and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with Gregg and Nicole, parents of two boys, ages ten and eight.
Gregg and Nicole got a surprise over the past six months as they saw their sons growing dependency on playing video games—and then having major meltdowns when told to stop playing. The tantrums and anger afterwards along with their totally preoccupation with playing the video games any chance they could get started driving Gregg and Nicole nuts. Fun times and harmony as a family were getting harder and harder to achieve. And along with those concerns came another one. Gregg and Nicole found out that Minecraft is not only addictive for playing non-violent fun games, but also Minecraft gives their sons access to The Hunger Games video game—a game modeled after the book and the movie and one Gregg and Nicole doesn’t want their sons to play. “This has got to stop,” they said to themselves and to each other.
In this podcast we discuss the impact of the video games on the boys’ attitudes and behaviors in light of child development. The brains of young children are fragile and are much more easily conditioned to wanting to play these games. It is no surprise that they have been affected in this way. With more understanding about Brain-Compatible Parenting, Gregg and Nicole were able to develop a plan to implement for the next 3-4 weeks. Tune in to find out the specifics of their daring plan. Then check back in a month for an update to see how things are going.
To learn more about Brain-Compatible Parenting, please go to www.GloriaDeGaetano.com and request a copy of my free e-book, Raising Children and Teens to be Their Best Selves. It’s that simple!
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
The Parent Coaching Corner will resume with next week’s podcast.
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September 09, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – Parent-Child Screen Agreements
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute (PCI) and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with Amy Armstrong, MSW, LSW, Family Mediator and PCI Certified Parent Coach®. Amy helps parents create a united approach with their co-parent, as much as possible whether or not the parents are married and living together, or if the children are being parented in two separate homes as a result of divorce. In her coaching work at www.ParentStrong.com, Amy celebrates with parents the opportunities to get to know themselves, their co-parent, and their children better with each conflict and each decision. Amy loves to reframe seemingly “problems” into opportunities for the family to get to know one another better and on a deeper level.
In this podcast, Amy presents on a great way to resolve family struggles about screen technologies through the careful and thoughtful implementation of a child-parent agreement.
So often parents and children fight over digital technology use. These fights can become pretty nasty—with the parent increasingly exerting control while the child increasingly resists. Often these on-going struggles turn children, who otherwise could and would communicate openly with their parents, into devious kids who work hard to keep their digital world separate from their parents. And, of course, it turns us into nags—people are kids don’t take seriously enough to listen to! But with understanding, openness, listening, and a decisive plan, parents can limit screen use and help kids make wise digital choices. A contract can help a lot. Coming up with a parent-child contract takes care in the planning and firm resolve in the execution of the plan. Most of all it takes willingness on everyone’s part to find mutually satisfying outcomes.
And that’s what Amy has had success doing with the parents she works with. Amy helps moms and dads identify the specific needs and issues that arise around the use of electronics, and explores with them the ways all family members can truly listen to one another.
For Amy digital and screen technology presents unique situations for families, as children often know more about the technology than the parents! Amy invites families with children of all ages to embrace the knowledge and insight of both the children and the parents; and work together to resolve issues.
When family members feel heard for their individual needs and interests, they become more willing to create solutions that meet the needs and interests of others – in other words, mutually satisfying. Children who are already seduced into a screen world need parents who offer their concerns about the negative effect of screen technology without further alienation.
Tune in to listen to Amy present a very specific plan to create and implement a child-parent agreement with these important six components:
1. Talk with your child authentically and when you are calm—not in the heat of the moment.
2. Invite your child to examine the situation from an exploratory approach. Ask such questions as, “Would you be willing to explore options—so we can put it to rest our struggle around you i-pad, cell phone, etc?” An then let you child know you care about what he/she thinks about this: “ I really want your input…”
3. Describe how you feel about the current use of screen technology by the child, using “I statements” so that throughout your conversation you are not starting sentences, with “you” which only puts the child on the defensive.
4. Brainstorm possible solutions without the outcome in mind. Be open to all possibilities. Amy gives some great examples here that may surprise—even shock you!
5. Evaluate the ideas that came out of the brainstorming session. Be clear on those that you are willing to try and exert your parental privilege by nixing those you are not willing to try because you feel they are inappropriate.
6. Put the agreement in place. But remember to follow-up on it. See how it is working for your child. Most likely you and your child will refine it. Think of it as a work in progress…
When you tune in, you will hear more details about each of these six steps. Enjoy listening and then trying out this positive, and very effective approach to parent-child agreements to further your parenting well in our digital world!
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
As you may know, I have been coaching Geri, mom of three sons regarding their self-management of their digital devices.
This is our last coaching session. Number 12. Over the past three months, Geri accomplished a lot. Not only are her sons managing their screen time experiences better, they are also more internally motivated to do other things outside of screen entertainment—enjoying life more in the real world.
In this podcast we discuss the strategies Geri found most useful that she wants to keep going after the coaching. We also take a last look at some of her key strengths she wants to keep engaging to be the parent she wants to be for her sons. I want to make sure Geri finishes our coaching understanding all the positive changes she made happen for her family!
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September 02, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – Parental Knowledge and Involvement
Part One: Guest Interview
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute (PCI) and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with PCI Certified Parent Coach® Lauren Leiker. Lauren coaches moms, dads, and couples through her parent coaching business, ParentingAware. Lauren is also a part-time parent education instructor at North Seattle Community College. As the mother of two children ages, 13 and 10, Lauren brings both practical wisdom and much expertise as an educator to the parents she coaches.
Did you know that only 2% of US parents actually know what video games their kids are playing? Yet, 89% of video games have violent content, not fit for any child or teen we wish to raise in a civilized manner.
Have you taken time to review your kids’ games? Do you know what they do and who they chat with when they are on the Internet? If you haven’t yet—it is well worth the time it takes, to find out. Parental knowledge about what are kids are seeing and doing on-line and with those devices is so important. Our knowledge and our continuous involvement in our kids’ media/digital world, ensures their healthy well-being as they grow up to be self-actualized, fulfilled human beings—in spite of the dangers lurking around every digital corner!
In this podcast, PCI Coach Lauren encourages parents to go beyond setting time limits with screens. Our kids are on the internet. What are they looking at? What are they exposed to? How can we monitor their activity? Listen as she provides five clear steps:
1. Lay the foundation by preparing children and teens before you buy any digital device. Talk, talk, and talk some more…What will you use this smart phone for? Do you know we will have time limits you can be on the i-pad? Are you prepared for the consequences if you do not abide by the time limits?
2. Think of developing “healthy digital habits.” Just like we work on healthy eating habits and regular doses of exercise, think of digital device health. What does it look like? Feel like in your family? What are the positive outcomes you want to see with “healthy digital habits?”
3. Be clear and firm, yet open and mindful. By carefully observing our children, we can intervene more quickly and get them back on a positive track.
4. Think of ways to renew the entire family through time off with screens. Lauren calls this: Family Self-Care.
5. Participate as a family in screen time. Lauren gives a great example of how she and her husband will see something on the Internet that they make a point to share with their kids—after dinner when all can be together to watch a funny cat video or read an educational blog. They participate together and talk together. That keeps parents involved and knowledgeable—a terrific combination for parenting well in our digital world!
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
I continue coaching Geri, mom of three boys, ages 13, 12, and 9 regarding self-management of their digital devices. In our last session, Geri said she was “screaming for joy” inside because she was able to get her two older sons to agree to not play violent video games—most of the time. Her 13 yr. old was still hanging onto Battlefield 3, and Geri was allowing this because he had recently taken up skateboarding with a friend and was not playing the game on weekends like he used to nor was he playing the game during school nights. So Geri is observing and waiting for the right time to make this decision. In the meantime, she keeps talking with all her sons, keeping the lines of communication open and isn’t afraid to make firm decisions, like taking away her middle son’s i-pad because of his poor school performance for the first week of classes.
This session is the next to our last coaching session and we spend time re-capping the pieces of Geri’s action plan that have been working well. Geri also starts to realize in a big way all the practical, positive changes she has put into motion over the past three months!
(Listen to the ten past podcasts to catch up with Geri.)
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August 26, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – Raising Girls Who Love Themselves
Part One: Guest Interview
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute (PCI) and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with PCI Coach Patricia Barros. Patricia, a retired pediatrician, who is the mother of three children, two daughters and one son. Patricia is a Lead Instructor for Parent Coach International and a PCI coach who owns her own coaching business at Insightful Parent Coaching in Cincinnati. Patricia can be reached at: [email protected]
This podcast is about a vitally important topic: Raising girls who love themselves. Media images of the so-called “perfect” woman pervade the female consciousness from little on up. Sexualized and commodified, girls are constantly presented as objects of male desire. In fact, billion dollar industries such as fashion and cosmetics are built upon the assumption that women hate themselves. It’s important that parents give their daughters the right messages so that girls can grow healthy self-identities to withstand all the nonsense that can be taken as truth, if we adults don’t intervene.
Have you heard of the latest trend, “the thigh gap?” Young girls want their thighs so thin that there is a perceivable gap between them. Let’s banish thighs that meet or, God forbid, rub together. Really. The message here is: Be thin—real thin—or you are not a worthy person. You are undervalued as a human, in fact.
Parents can counteract distortions such as this through tricks that media use—such as repetition—repeat authentically our love; affirm our girls’ innate talents regularly. This podcast provides more practical ideas that can be implemented within a busy day to help grow our daughters’ healthy self-identity. We have the power to empower our daughters from the inside, where it counts! And when we do, they will love themselves unconditionally.
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
I continue coaching Geri, mom of three boys, ages 13, 11, and 9 regarding self-management of their digital devices. In our last session Geri was in the middle of an important transition—back to school. Geri was pleasantly surprised to see how all her hard work with the boys this summer was transferring to help with the transition from summer vacation to start of school. That spurred Geri to think about ways to help the boys stay organized during the school year—starting with making the after-school schedule more visible to the boys. But as life would have it, something else crept to the top of her list over the last two weeks. It wasn’t the after-school schedule that became the most important thing. Stopping the boy’s participation in M-rated violent video games became a higher priority. And also, Geri had to make a tough decision to take away her middle son’s i-pad. Tune in to hear all she accomplished since our last coaching session.
(Listen to the first nine podcasts to catch up with Geri.)

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57 min
August 19, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – The Importance of the Home Environment
Part One: Guest Interview
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute (PCI) and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with PCI Coach Angie Poulos. Angie has over 30 years experience as a Montessori teacher and brings that amazing background to her parent coaching practice at her company, Poulos Parent Coaching. As a mom of six children, including a set of twins and grandmother of six grandchildren, Angie brings a wealth of personal, as well as professional experience to this topic, too!
Our conversation today is grounded in Montessori’s viewpoint that the appropriate environment with the appropriate stimulation needed to enrich the child’s development will, in fact, support the child’s healthy self-identity.
Angie states:
“Yes, we are constantly learning of potential dangers with young children and the media/digital toys, etc. but what can parents do? “To be nobody-but-yourself in a world which is doing it’s best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight, and never stop fighting.” EE Cummings. I have faith that all parents possess the capabilities of enjoying the company of their children without giving in to digital toys. They just forgot how kids think. Let’s focus on ways parents can provide a healthy and stimulating environment for their young children and have fun doing it. I am dedicated to helping each child reach his/her highest potential by supporting good parenting. My experience teaching Montessori school for over 30 years and working with hundreds of children is a rich and solid base that helps me in my parent coaching practice.”
Tune in as Angie and I discuss do-able, practical, daily activities that provide children with an enriched, creative home environment to enable them to develop optimally!
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
Because of summer vacation, there is no parent coaching session in this podcast. Please join us next week as Geri and I resume.
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August 05, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – Powerful Parents
Part One: Guest Interview
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute (PCI) and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with PCI Coach Karina De La Cruz. Karina is the mother of three young children and a professional parent coach certified through the Parent Coaching Institute. She owns and operates her parent coaching practice SiembraLife. Karina tells us that siembralife means “Planting Seeds for Life.” Karina focuses her parent coaching on what brings life to children and to parents. At the PCI we discuss these types of questions: “Where is the aliveness?” “What makes us feel and be fully alive?” “What can we do to bring more life to challenging situations?” Life is not always easy, but by being fully alive, engaged and participating in life, we bring a new aliveness to those tender, difficult moments. This podcast emphasizes parental influence as a way to “plant seeds for life”
Did you know the media has been called “the third parent?” Why? Because it’s such a mighty influence on so many levels. TV, video, video games, i-pads and computers are not just devices for entertainment—screen machines are “influence machines.” They change our kids’ attitudes and behaviors. They shape their values…often not in alignment with what we want for our children…Screen machines can literally change our kids into people we don’t want them to be!
Are parents more influential than screen technologies? I, and all the PCI coaches around the world truly believe that parents are the most powerful influence in their children’s lives. We believe that, because it’s the truth. We want to help parents know that clearly and unconditionally.
In this podcast Karina shares ideas that have worked for her own family and with the parents she coaches. We don’t have to throw up our hands in surrender to those digital devices. We can remain the biggest influence in our kids’ lives with a deep understanding our own parental power and with focused activities that support family aliveness that keep parents in the driver’s seat—no matter where technology leads us!
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
I continue coaching Geri, mom of three boys, ages 13, 11, and 9 regarding self-management of their digital devices. In our last session we uncovered that Geri is staying consistent with consequences and rules with the electronics, and consequently, the boys are taking the boundaries around electronics more seriously. And they are also learning valuable lessons form the other activities Geri provides for them.
This is our ninth session and Geri is in the middle of an important transition—back to school. Since she is in Arizona, the boys’ summer is short and they are now starting back into a new school routine. Geri was pleasantly surprised to see how all her hard work with the boys this summer was transferring to help with the transition from summer vacation to start of school. Join us to hear what has gone well and learn about a new challenge that has cropped up and what Geri plans to do about it.
(Listen to the eight previous podcasts to catch up with Geri.)
Please Note: You hear a portion of a one-hour coaching session. We can’t record the entire session, but we give you the important gist. For more information about PCI Parent Coaching, please visit The Parent Coaching Institute’s website.
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July 29, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – Parent Resiliency: The Art of Bouncing Back
Part One: Guest Interview
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute, and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with PCI Coach Pat Tyler focuses her parent coaching at Cara Family Disability Center on supporting parents of children and adults with developmental disabilities to lead flourishing lives. In addition to becoming a certified parent coach through the Parent Coaching Institute, Pat recently completed her Master’s Degree at Lesley University where she developed the tool, Supporting Families with Children with Disabilities During Decision Making Times: A Family Decision Making Guide. Her thesis studies included extensive research on resiliency in parents.
Resiliency for all parents is the topic of this podcast. What are the key traits that help parents “bounce back” after adversity? What do we know from the research on stress reduction that we can help parents translate into their busy days? Pat shares valuable information for parents gleaned from the latest research.
The Cara Family Disability Center’s website states: “A resilient parent who has clarity of vision and understanding of both their unique strengths and challenges, as well as the child’s strengths and challenges, will be the most effective life long advocate for their child.
Our “bounce back” ability not only supports our own well-being, but enables us to be the best for our kids, also. Join us for an informative discussion and be inspired!
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
I continue coaching Geri, mom of three boys, ages 13, 11, and 9 regarding self-management of their digital devices. This is our eighth session and we are in the middle of her plan for making this summer a productive one for her sons—which includes becoming more consistent with the rules around their digital devices.
In our last session we discussed ups and downs of learning new habits and shed more light on the boys’ intrinsic motivation and what they do well when they are self-managing and enjoying making good choices for themselves. In this session we uncover that Geri is staying consistent with consequences and rules with the electronics, and consequently, the boys are taking the boundaries around electronics more seriously. And they are also learning valuable lessons form the other activities Geri provides for them. Tune in to observe the great progress Geri is making with her sons growing abilities to manage their devices.
(Listen to the seven previous podcasts to catch up with Geri.)
Please Note: You hear a portion of a one-hour coaching session. We can’t record the entire session, but we give you the important gist. For more information about PCI Parent Coaching, please visit The Parent Coaching Institute’s website.
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July 22, 2013 Parent Well in our Digital World – Hooked on Games? Pro-Active Solutions
Part One: Guest Interview
Gloria, founder of The Parent Coaching Institute, and author of Parenting Well in a Media Age, talks with Andrew Doan, M.D., author of the book, Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction. This is not a dry summary of research on video game addiction. It is Dr. Doan’s personal story of his own addiction. His description of the process of being caught in the addiction, and what it took to escape, is told with great insight. For Dr. Doan is a practicing M.D. in ophthalmology, and has a Ph.D. in neuroscience. As he struggled for over three years, with the help of his wife, family, church, and friends to escape the undertow, he also researched what it was that he was trying to escape. The story he tells could not have been told without the combined insights of his personal experience and history, as seen through his medical and scientific training.
Did you know that one in eleven teens is hooked on video games to the point of obsession? That means they will spend most of their waking hours immersed in a game, even when there is no external reward—no one praises them for playing. No one gives them a recognition medal—a common practice now with most kids’ sports participation. No one delivers a pizza to their door each time they successfully get to the next level. Yet, without any of these typical types of external rewards, they keep playing. Often oblivious to their surroundings, they may regularly skip meals, living off snacks and energy drinks to ward off sleep in order to keep playing. What is it about a video game that compels this kind of investment of time and energy? Is it just for the “fun?”
Gloria, co-author of the popular book, Stop Teaching Our Kids to Kill: A Call to Action Against TV, Movie, and Video Game Violence, is as passionate about this issue as Dr. Doan is. Consequently, this discussion is quite lively as they both get fired up to help parents understand not only how to pro-actively address the video game habit with their children, but also what moms and dads can do to prevent it from becoming an obsession in their children’s lives.
Part Two: The Parent Coaching Corner
I continue coaching Geri, mom of three boys, ages 13, 11, and 9 regarding self-management of their digital devices. This is our seventh session and we are in the middle of her plan for making this summer a productive one for her sons—which includes becoming more consistent with the rules around their digital devices.
In our last session we talked about her morning routine and how she started a new practice of the boys getting up on their own. This was a great beginning of their learning self-management skills and natural consequences. We learned, like we say at the PCI, “the little things” often mean more than we ever know since their waking up on their own freed her to concentrate on her work better. She started her day off with a cup of coffee and concentrated work, without worrying about when the boys would wake up. A big step to starting off the day in a positive frame, more prepared to address the day creatively and productively with her sons.
In this session we learn of the ups and downs of learning new habits and attempt to shed more light on the boys’ intrinsic motivation and what they do well when they are self-managing and enjoying making good choices for themselves. Once we know that, we can then transfer those qualities and skills to their self-managing their electronic devices.
(Listen to the six previous podcasts to catch up with Geri.)
Please Note: You hear a portion of a one-hour coaching session. We can’t record the entire session, but we give you the important gist. For more information about PCI Parent Coaching, please visit The Parent Coaching Institute’s website.
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