pov: the shame you feel for avoiding a creative project is keeping you from returning to it. let’s discuss why we need to embrace recommitment as a key part of the creative process. the constant decision to return and recommit to our projects and to our relationships, without shaming or blaming ourselves, is fundamental to the human experience. contrary to what we are taught to believe, our rest and our breaks are generative. we are cyclical, seasonal beings forced into linear, mechanic imaginations. 

let’s reclaim our ability to wander off the path we had imagined for ourselves, and then recommit to a different version of that path; enriched and enlivened by the experiences we have had along the way. 

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Key quote: 

“Don’t let the shame of staying away keep you from the magic of returning” 

Time stamps

(00:33): The shame of avoidance

(04:33): How nature embraces return

(07:48): Lost connections with friends

(09:36): Return is not regression

(13:25): Recommitment is the substance of relationships

(14:08): Beehives and birds’ nests 

(18:00): Athletes, crafts, identity & recommitment 

(20:50): Returning is a brave act 

(23:33): What will we recommit to this week? 

(25:02): The number one regret = lost connections 

(27:51): The life on the other side of return

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