Struggle Care

22: Moral Perfectionsim


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I’ve never been a perfectionist. I’ve never cared if my bed is made or my handwriting is neat or if a picture on the wall is hanging perfectly. I’m not bothered by things being a little “out of place.” So imagine my surprise to discover that my whole life is run by perfectionism–a different kind of perfectionism. That’s today’s topic on the show. Join me to find out more!


Show Highlights:

  • How an 18-month-stint as a teenager in a long-term rehab facility turned me into a moral perfectionist
  • How a militaristic 12-step program and an evangelical church forced me to examine every daily decision for pure, altruistic motives
  • How this type of perfectionism told me that I had to be “good enough” to be loved and accepted
  • How even self-improvement is approached differently with moral perfectionism
  • Why it’s impossible to live with moral perfectionism
  • The first step toward change: recognizing that I am a moral perfectionist who is trying to earn my worth through altruism and unselfishness
  • Why you are not alone if you feel like a moral perfectionist
  • An excerpt from my book, How to Keep House While Drowning, chapter 3

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