if you ask yourself, who am I to do this thing I want to do? to write a book, start a podcast, become a songwriter.... this episode is for you. as insecure and fearful creatives, we ask ourselves, who am I to do the thing? but we don’t think imaginatively about how to answer that question.

we look to other people and institutions to qualify us as what we already know ourselves to be, or what others have told us they see in us.

if you worry that you are not worthy of pursuing your dreams or going after an opportunity, this episode is for you. let's learn to qualify ourselves and take a broader, experiential and relational view of our readiness to pursue our dreams.

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Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. 

Key quote from episode: 

“We are waiting for permission that is never going to arrive, so we have to bring that into being. We have to qualify ourselves” 

“Every experience you have had is Knowledge that you can draw from that “qualifies” you to go after your dreams” 

Time stamps

(00:00): the myth of being qualified

(04:03): why you are remarkable

(11:16): my experience 

(15:00): reframe and reimagine 

(20:22): what have you been to yourself? 

(21:44): what is a spiritual resume?

(23:42): romantic love as an example

(29:57): closing 

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