What happens when your marriage ends but the rest of your life is still waiting for you to show up?

In this episode of Total Health in Midlife, I sit down with Valerie Simms, a divorce coach who blends financial expertise with emotional and spiritual support. Whether you're contemplating divorce, navigating it now, or still feeling stuck years later, this conversation will remind you that you're not broken—and you’re definitely not alone.

Valerie shares what most people get wrong about divorce recovery, why your friends and family may not be the best place to turn for advice, and how to start rebuilding your identity from the ground up. If you've ever thought, “I should be over this by now” or “I don’t even know who I am anymore,” this one’s for you.

We talk about the practical side of post-divorce life (hello, finances), but we also explore the deeper emotional shifts that come with letting go and starting over. It’s part pep talk, part permission slip—and all grounded in real talk.

 

About Valerie Simms:

Valerie is a passionate coach dedicated to empowering women through transformative money mindset coaching.  With a wealth of expertise, she guides her clients to achieve financial independence by shifting their perspectives from scarcity to abundance. Valerie focuses on building confidence and resilience, helping women navigate their unique financial journeys with grace and strength. Through her coaching, she emphasizes the importance of self-care and creating robust support systems to thrive during transitions. As a powerful advocate for women's empowerment, Valerie is committed to inspiring her clients to embrace their potential and live fulfilled, financially secure lives.

 

 

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

• Why coaching (not just therapy) might be the key to moving forward after divorce

• The unexpected identity crisis that hits many women in midlife after separation

• Small, doable steps to rebuild your social life, self-worth, and financial confidence

 

 

RESOURCES

• Valerie’s Website: masteryofbalance.com

• Valerie's Money Mindset Course

• Done with Dieting Podcast Episode 129: Dating After Divorce with Sade Curry