If you obsess over planning things instead of letting them unfold naturally, this episode is for you! Join me as we explore the notion and paradox of Becoming. Let’s release the illusion of control, and let the seed of your ideas and your relationships grow into what they wish to become. Nourishing the seed is meaningful and necessary — trying to control and define its possibilities may not be. Sending all my love to you today, sunshine. 

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Key quotes from episode: 

“Honor the magic within you by understanding that you cannot fully contain, predict, or control its expression.”

Time stamps

(01:39): Controlling our creativity

(04:37): Optimizing in dating

(07:20): Nourish the seeds 

(08:29): The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts

(12:16): Accessing our wisdom

(16:45): Breakups, birth & death

(22:14): Trust the process

(23:35): Examples (play, dance, etc)

(28:30): My podcast’s Becoming

(29:50): The importance of space 

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Sources mentioned: 

Book: The Wisdom of Insecurity: A Message for an Age of Anxiety by Alan Watts

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Quotes from this episode: 

“When we let something new Be, we also let it Become” 

“In our very Being is the state of Becoming” 

“Surrender the illusion that we are in control"

“Suspend judgment, initially at least, and let yourself have the first draft. If you are writing and editing at the same time, for example, you are curtailing the possibilities of your words before they have even been given a chance to be fully expressed"

“On a first date, you don’t need to interview someone. You can choose to just experience them” 

“We have so much love to give. We only need to stop ourselves from constantly silencing that giving. We have so much wisdom to share; sometimes what we are craving most is just the space to let that voice inside of us speak; to let it unfold — to let it become"

“What will you surrender to this week? What will you allow to manifest through you? Instead of trying to exert control — pause, and tap into a wisdom, power, and intelligence that is bigger than your ability to plan for it"

“Honor your inner child, and your inner manifestation of love — the part of you that craves love, and the part of you that is love — and create from that place”