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Nancy and Sarah discuss a NYT interview with Lindy West, the former Jezebel firebrand whose new memoir describes her path toward polyamory — and it’s a rocky one! Nancy and Sarah are split on this one, but West’s account raises an interesting question: When a woman who doesn’t want an open marriage learns to embrace it, does that represent a new kind of liberation, or the old-school accommodation of being the perfect wife? They also talk about a recent essay on the dating crisis among young people and another about the trendiness of love addiction. Special episode alert: Nancy learns about gooning.

Also discussed:

* AI SPAM = Never answering the phone again

* How much would you pay for a piece of rhubarb pie?

* Some love for Aidy Bryant

* Personal writing vs. activism

* “The liberating spirit of anal sex” is a phrase that’s used

* Is there anything worse than one-third of men saying they’re afraid to approach a woman? Yes, yes there is

* Nancy watches porn. Reports back with what men gooners want

* The behavioral modifications that came with our screens

* “Is love the most important thing to you?” is a dumb question

* You want more hockey? We got more hockey!

Plus, Sarah’s new book has a pub date, an Oscar Best Picture bet, Nancy finally admits her latest television addiction — and more!

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