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In this episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany Sauder sits down with Brian Kavicky, business advisor and sales leadership expert with Lushin, to unpack the hidden beliefs that shape our actions—and how they might be keeping us stuck.

Tiffany and Brian explore why so many of us feel exhausted, overwhelmed, or unable to enjoy our success. Whether it’s the pressure of taking care of everyone else, struggling to give yourself credit, or feeling paralyzed when facing change, Brian breaks down the real reason behind these challenges: the beliefs we’ve internalized about ourselves.

Through real-life examples, listener questions, and Brian’s direct coaching, this episode explores the powerful link between what we believe and what we experience—and how to take back control of our mindset.

Key Takeaways:

• How your brain proves your beliefs right—even when they’re working against you
• The three negative self-talk patterns that keep you stuck
• Why ‘I don’t know where to start’ is never actually true
• How to break free from limiting beliefs and reclaim your joy

If you liked this episode, check these out:

• Why You Feel Alone as a Leader

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/why-you-feel-alone-as-a-leader-with-brian-kavicky/id1555762235?i=1000691798469

• How to Ask for the Support You Deserve (Without Feeling Guilty):

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-ask-for-the-support-you-deserve-without/id1555762235?i=1000684215858

• How to build confidence when cash flow is tight: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-build-confidence-when-cash-flow-is-tight-with/id1555762235?i=1000680122886
• Dealing with Perfectionism and Overwhelm: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/dealing-with-perfectionism-and-overwhelm/id1555762235?i=1000672484253 
• 5 Lessons to help you win in life and business: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/5-lessons-to-help-you-win-in-life-and-business-with/id1555762235?i=1000669261940 
• The secret to unlocking success for women in business:
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Timestamps:
(00:00) Intro

(01:09) What are we giving power to?

(02:52) How beliefs shape reality

(03:42) Why your brain seeks proof for what you already believe

(06:07) Three common struggles—and why they all come from the same place

(08:15) The ‘devil’s tongue’ and the root of negative self-talk

(10:46) How your body signals your mindset

(12:30) The hidden cost of taking care of everyone else

(16:03) Why you don’t give yourself credit—and how to change that

(19:08) The fear of disrupting your relationships by wanting more

(26:34) Why confusion is often an excuse to avoid action

(30:57) How asking for help creates clarity—and why most people don’t do it

(32:39) A simple exercise to override negative self-talk