welcome to ACT 2 of our convo on longing for a romantic relationship and what wisdom we can learn from this longing. In this episode, I read you a love poems, invite you to define romance for yourself, and share my pov on what romance means to me, and how it can be accessed through friendship. I am sending you love, today and always. 🤎

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key quotes from episode: 

“I dreamed of romantic love and I thought I knew the packaging it would arrive in. But the substance was most important — and it did not come packaged as a romantic lover, but as a best friend” 

“I will love and be loved. Save and be saved a thousand times.” — Kate Baer

“Value all deep bonds equally” — bell hooks

“Is it really so that the one I love is everywhere?” — Rumi

time stamps

(01:49): welcome to Act 2! 

(06:50): poem: ⁠Idea⁠⁠ by Kate Baer 

(20:10): my definition of romance

(28:27): conceptual barriers 

(36:43): poem: ⁠Looking for love⁠⁠ by Rumi 

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sources mentioned: 

Poem: Idea by Kate Baer

Poem: Looking for love by Rumi

Essay: The Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power by Audre Lorde

Book: Communion: The Female Search for Love by bell hooks

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