Sheleana Aiyana is an international best selling author of Becoming the One, and founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationship as a spiritual path. She lives with her husband, Ben and their dog Bodhi on xwәnen’әč, the unceded land of the Hul’q’umi’num’- and WSÁNE´ C-speaking Coast Salish peoples, now known as Salt Spring Island, BC.

Episode Highlights

• Sheleana Aiyana, author of Becoming the One, shares her personal journey towards deep self-acceptance
• She shares her experiences of growing up amidst her mother's addiction and mental health issues, leading her on a seven-year healing journey that eventually led her to a conscious partnership and parenting
• The conversation explores the challenges of parenting and sustaining a relationship while working from home, acknowledging the resentment often experienced by women in early motherhood
• Michaela and Sheleana discuss the concept of “gentle parenting”, a philosophy rooted in connection and respect over punishment and reward
• Sheleana emphasizes the importance of self-truth, personal power, and not seeking external validation for love, or approval
• She explains the concept of motherhood as a devotional path, a journey filled with immense love and care, despite the inherent transience of the experience
• Sheleana shares about her struggles with past relationships and addictions and her subsequent awakening
• She advocates for the exploration of childhood wounds to identify patterns of anxiety in adult relationships
• Sheleana encourages women to seek alignment with their truth and power, suggesting they become aware of feelings of underappreciation, invisibility, or the need to contort themselves for connection
• She suggests a mindful approach when triggered by a partner – pausing, tuning into the body, and asking for what's truly needed
• Sheleana emphasizes that relationships can evolve into valuable vessels for growth and healing if each partner is committed to their own personal work
• Michaela and Sheleana share the perspective that community and family are much more valuable that goals and success, acknowledging motherhood as a potent ‘psychedelic’ journey

Sheleana Aiyana’s Links 

• Website: www.sheleanaaiyana.com
• Instagram: @sheleanaaiyana
• Youtube: @RisingWoman

Resources Mentioned in This Episode

• Book: Becoming the One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself by Sheleana Aiyana
• Sheleana’s Online Programs: Rising Woman Programs
• Book: Mother-Daughter Wisdom: Understanding the Crucial Link Between Mothers, Daughters, and Health by Christiane Northrup