Mom and Mind

299: Behind the Sessions: “I’m a Failure” with Dr. Kat


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The idea of feeling like a failure comes up often in therapy; I hear it multiple times each week. People who are struggling often feel like they are a failure, and this is heartbreaking to hear. Let’s go behind the scenes and talk about what’s happening underneath the feelings of failure. 


Show Highlights:

  • Why being perfect and being a failure are NOT the only two options
  • Failure and perfection—defined and explained
  • Why failure and perfection cannot be the measure of parenting success
  • Why a defense against shame is often underneath the unreasonable goal of perfection
  • Examples of how perfectionism can show up in the parenting journey
  • Examples of what could really be happening to cause you to yell at your child
  • How to have a more compassionate view of your journey
  • How to gain perspective on your negative self-judgmental thoughts
  • Why we need to have more self-compassion—and model it for our kids

  • Resources:

    Visit www.postpartum.net for resources and support! 

    Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.  

    Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today!

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    Mom and MindBy Katayune Kaeni, Psy.D., PMH-C

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