I think we can all agree that gaslighting is the wooooorst. When you share a vulnerable or tough experience with someone and they respond in a way that makes you feel like you're being dramatic and overreacting it really hurts. In this episode I cover the many ways that people gaslight one another, where the term comes from, why people engage in gaslighting, how to respond when someone is gaslighting you, and of course what to do if you realize that you've gaslighted someone else. I also share a few examples of times that I have been racially gaslighted, oof. If you need a little validation you'll find it here. Don't worry you're not losing your mind, you're being gaslighted.

Solidarity for Palestine Action Items:

1. Email your reps and tell them to end U.S. complicity in Israel's abuses of Palestinians.
2. Donate to provide emergency aid to Palestinians
3. Tell someone you love what you've learned about Palestine and the extreme power imbalance, created directly by U.S. aid, that has displaced and killed hundreds of Palestinians this week. The Israeli government is spreading misinformation about their aggressions, we have to act now.

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