Beyond Success

#33: The Myth of Emotional Toughness: Why Suppressing Feelings is Weak, Not Strong


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Most high achievers take pride in the fact that they’re not too emotional. They stay cool under pressure, act like nothing bothers them, wear their emotional armor like a badge. 

But one day, they wake up and realize that they’re a mere observer of their life. They’re not actually living their own life. Instead, they feel empty, like something’s missing that they can’t quite put their finger on. 

Worst part?

They don’t realize that the emotional armor they wore so proudly is the exact thing preventing them from experiencing all the good life has to offer: Joy, love, connection, growth. 

In today’s show, you’ll discover why emotional armor is not emotional strength (despite what you’ve been led to believe), how emotional armor prevents you from experiencing the full breadth of life, and how to start taking steps to remove your emotional armor, so you can show up fully even in the midst of an emotional storm. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

  • Here’s why reaching your biggest, most ambitious goal feels empty (0:48) 
  • How suppressed emotions fester under the surface and can actually cause physical pain  (2:23) 
  • The dark side of making millions before turning 40 that nobody understands or even talks about (4:10) 
  • How people with real emotional strength handle being triggered (and no, building emotional strength doesn’t mean you’re immune to being triggered) (8:53) 
  • The “Emotional Strength Inoculation” secret for gradually building your emotional resilience without suppressing or repressing emotions that will come back to haunt you (10:32) 
  • Why numbing your emotions turns you into a lifeless, soulless robot that never experiences the full breadth of life (16:19) 

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https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

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