跟伴侶的相處模式可以有三種方式：Turning towards, turning away, turning against，當你另一半跟你講話的時候，你是 turning toward 試著接他的話，還是 turning away 不理會他，或是最差的選項 turning against 請他安靜？So, you know, in our apartment lab where we saw 130 newlywed couples and followed them for six years, we discovered that a lot of times when they're just kind of hanging out in this apartment lab, one person will try to get the other person's attention or share something humorous, or, you know, some interesting story that they've heard or are reading about.