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Episode 345: Hidden Forces That Shape (and can Sabotage) Your Leadership, and how to tame them

Guest: Dr. Jaime Goff

THIS WEEK’S TOPIC

Do you ever find yourself micromanaging, replaying conversations, or avoiding asking for help even when you’re overwhelmed? You’re not alone, and nothing is “wrong” with you.

In this episode, Laura Cox Kaplan sits down with executive coach and author Dr. Jaime Goff, whose new book The Secure Leader reveals how early emotional patterns and attachment styles shape how we show up at work. If you’ve ever felt stuck, “off,” or unsure why your leadership isn’t landing the way you want, this conversation offers a clearer roadmap and practical tools to move toward grounded, confident, secure leadership.

ABOUT THIS WEEK’S GUEST

Dr. Jaime Goff is the founder of The Empathetic Leader and author of The Secure Leader. With roots in couple and family therapy and years of experience as an executive coach, Jaime brings a rare blend of psychology and leadership strategy. She helps leaders understand how early relational patterns influence their management style—and how to update those patterns to build healthier, more trust-filled organizations.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

THE BACKBONE OF YOUR LEADERSHIP STORY: How early relationships shape your leadership patterns, and why understanding your backstory matters.

ATTACHMENT-INSPIRED LEADERSHIP STYLES: Jaime explains the difference between Secure leaders, Insecure-anxious leaders, and Insecure-avoidant leaders, and why “secure” is a direction, not a box. 

HOW TO SPOT YOUR OWN PATTERNS: and how those triggers, stress responses, and habits can hold you back even when some of those behaviors might have worked previously.

GENDER, PERFECTIONISM & CONTROL: A candid look at why many women struggle with asking for help, relinquishing control, and rewriting perfectionist tendencies.

TOOLS FOR SELF-REGULATION: Jaime shares some practical, simple strategies, including: Noticing emotional cues, “Security priming” (like hand-on-heart grounding),

Pausing, or taking a break when things escalate

Whether you’re leading a team, managing up, or simply trying to understand yourself better, this episode offers a powerful lens to elevate your influence and strengthen your leadership.

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