You want your kids to experience freedom from stress and concern as they move between their two homes.  You want them to be able to love both of their parents — without feeling like there are strings attached.

To make sure that's what your kids experience, you're probably very careful about the way you talk about your Ex when the kids are around…

…but are you sure you're not unintentionally putting them in the middle, even in subtle ways?

It can be tough to know when and what to say about an Ex when your kids are around.  You can't read their mind or really understand how they're internalizing a conversation - or how they'll respond to your emotional reactions.

And most of us make some common unintentional mistakes — even when we have the best of intentions.

That's what this episode is all about.  We'll help you understand 2 of the most common conversational mistakes we can make that unintentionally puts kids into a bind called a Parental Allegiance.

And we'll help you think through how these mistakes might be present in your home.

You'll Discover:

• What it's like for kids who are stuck in a Parental Allegiance
• Why a Parental Allegiance bind is harmful to your kids and your relationship with them
• The 2 unintentional mistakes parents and step-parents can make that feed into a Parental Allegiance
• 4 Questions you can ask yourself to determine if you're inadvertently creating a parental allegiance for your kids.

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 29 — What is a Loyalty Bind and What Can You Do About It?
• Episode 6 — Are Your Kids Stuck in a 'Parental Allegiance' and What Can You Do About It?
• Episode 7 — Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps That Help
• Episode 8 — Toxic Exes and Defiant Kids - A Simple Strategy Against Lies and Slander
• We referenced this article while discussing Parentification:  Your Child is not your Confidant 

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