In this week’s episode, Kevin and I dive into something that so many runners (especially my fellow Type A personalities!) will relate to — the paradox of control.

As runners, we love our plans, our paces, our structure. Control helps us stay consistent and push toward our goals. But when that need for control starts to take over, it can also lead to stress, frustration, and even burnout — both on the run and in life.

We open up about some personal experiences — from remodeling our bathroom (hello, chaos!) to grieving the loss of our sweet pet — and how those moments reminded us that not everything can or should be controlled. Sometimes, the best growth happens when we learn to let go and allow space for life (and training) to unfold.

In this episode, we talk about:
 🏃‍♀️ How control can be both your superpower and your stumbling block
 🧠 Why surrendering doesn’t mean giving up — it means trusting the process
 💡 The mindset shift that helps you find freedom and flow in your running
 📓 A journaling prompt to reflect on where you might need to take more control… or where it’s time to let go

If this resonates, we’d love for you to take a few minutes to reflect and share your insights with us — or bring them to your next run and see what comes up.

🎧 Tune in now and let’s explore what it really means to find balance between holding on and letting go.

00:00 Introduction to the Paradox of Control

09:35 Cross Country Team and Control

12:34 Understanding Control and the Nervous System

19:33 Effort, Consistency, and Mindset

28:51 Shifting Belief Systems

30:50 Grace and Patience with a New Dog

33:03 Uncontrollable Factors in Running

36:06 Hormonal Influences and Control

40:05 Structured Flexibility in Training

42:31 Balancing Control and Surrender

52:03 Invitation to the Real Life Runners Team

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