Raising Boys Building Men/Parenting Solutions For Moms And Boys

45. Stop Blaming Yourself for Your Son's Bad Behavior (It's Not Your Fault)


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If you've ever sat with your head in your hands wondering "What am I doing wrong?" after your son's latest attitude explosion, this episode is your permission slip to STOP. You're not alone in this blame spiral - it's literally hardwired into us as moms. But here's the thing: that guilt isn't helping him learn accountability, and it's stealing your confidence as his guide.

 

In this episode we're diving deep into why moms automatically blame themselves when their teenage sons act out, slam doors, or get in trouble at school. I'm sharing why this self-blame is your default response, how it's actually hurting both you AND your son, and giving you practical steps to break free from the guilt cycle so you can show up as the confident mom your son needs.

 

You'll leave with :

  • Understand the psychology behind why moms blame themselves (spoiler: it's not actually helpful)
  • Learn to shift from guilt to curiosity - the game-changing parenting emotion
  • Get scripts for conversations that give ownership back to your son
  • Discover why boundaries aren't trauma - they're exactly what he's begging for
  • Practical steps to stop the self-blame cycle starting today
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    Raising Boys Building Men/Parenting Solutions For Moms And BoysBy Heidi Allsop - Life and Parenting Coach for Moms of Boys

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