Getting support as a Black woman isn’t always as simple as just asking for it. Because let’s be real—how many times have people tried to “support” you, but instead of feeling lighter, you just felt drained, unseen, or misunderstood?

That’s because support isn’t one-size-fits-all. There are specific types of support Black women need, but most of us aren’t getting them in the way that actually makes a difference.

In this episode of Shades of Strong, we’re breaking down the five types of support Black women need—and why so many of us aren’t receiving them. If you’ve ever felt like people mean well but still aren’t showing up in a way that actually helps, this episode is for you.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

Why support doesn’t always land the way you need it to

The five types of support Black women need and how they show up in real life

How to stop settling for support that drains you and start getting support that actually fills you up

Key Takeaways:

Support isn’t just about people being there—it’s about them showing up in a way that actually matters.

If you don’t know how you receive support best, it’s easy to feel like you’re always carrying it alone.

When you name your Support Language™, you start making room for the kind of support that truly nourishes you.

Why This Episode Matters:

Black women are often expected to be strong, but real strength isn’t about doing it all alone—it’s about knowing what kind of support actually sustains you.

You deserve support that feels like care, not just obligation. Let’s talk about what that looks like.

🎧 Tap in and listen now.

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Shirl is the creator of Support Languages™ and host of Shades of Strong® — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black Woman to Supported Black Woman™ through language, rest, and real support.