Okay, I know I've said this before about other episodes, but I truly think today's episode was one of my very favorite podcast recordings to date!

Maybe it had something to do with the fact that Aundi Kolber is a therapist and I felt like I got a therapy session just by spending an hour with her?! :) Listen in to the episode and you'll see what I mean.

Aundi has a gift of sharing so eloquently and yet also in such a heartfelt manner. She just exudes such peace and calmness, but also such profound wisdom and understanding of how we are wired.

In this episode, we not only talk about what's saving our lives (I had to laugh that she talked about something related to brain science and I talk about leggings!) and the books we're reading, but then we dive into some deep heart topics. She shares what it means to Try Softer (the title of her new book), the difference between Big T trauma and little t trauma and how we might be experiencing the aftershocks of little t trauma without even realizing it and this might be at the root of our stress, anxiety, and overwhelm.

Aundi explains thoroughly how the body processes pain -- whether physical or emotional. And she provides very concrete suggestions and ideas for how we can start to take steps toward more healing and wholeness.

Whether you feel stressed, anxious, and overwhelmed or whether you know someone who does, this conversation is highly important and one that you do not want to miss. I have thought of it over and over again since we recorded last week and will be taking so many nuggets of truth from it to apply to my everyday life.

In This Episode: 

[00:25] Welcome back! I am so excited to have Aundi Kolber on the show!

[01:06] Aundi shares about a little about her background and family

[03:43] Meaningful walks are saving Aundi’s life -- and the brain science she shares here is fascinating! And then, to keep things a little more down to earth (!), I talk about my new favorite leggings.

[09:25] We discuss our current reads, including one written by a therapist and a novel I finished last week. 

[13:08] Why did Aundi write Try Softer? (I loved that she wrote it as a love letter to her younger self!)

[17:20] We talk about the stigma surrounding the word “trauma” and why it's important to understand if you've experienced little t trauma.

[19:27] How can you tell if you’re holding onto the pain of the past and how does it show up in your life?

[23:50] What does it mean to "try softer" and how can we apply this in our every day lives?

[27:37] Aundi shares practical first steps for beginning to break free from stress, anxiety, and survival mode -- even if you feel so stuck and overwhelmed that you don't know how to take the first step!

Links and Resources:

• Try Softer by Aundi Kolber
• Aundi’s Website
• My New Favorite Leggings
• Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb (Note: Aundi wrote me a few days after the interview to say that she would give a language warning with this book. She said it didn't show up until the later parts of the book which she hadn't read yet when we did this interview.)
• Boundaries for Your Soul by Allison Cook and Kimberly Miller
• The Printed Letter Bookshop by Katherine Reay
• Dear Mr. Knightley by Katherine Reay
• Aundi on Facebook
• Aundi on Twitter
• Crystal’s Favorite Things on Amazon
• CrystalPaine.com
• MoneySavingMom.com
• Crystal’s Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
• Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: [email protected]

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