We romanticize big life changes—quitting the job, moving to the dream city, chasing the thing we’ve always wanted. But big changes have big side effects. And if you don’t see them coming, they might just send you running back to the life you were trying to leave behind. In this episode, we’re breaking down six warnings I wish someone had told me before I changed everything. If you’re craving a big shift, let’s make sure you’re ready for it.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro 

01:45 Life update + tour!  

05:52 6 warnings about changing your life 

06:14 1. It will not automatically make you happy

07:44 Harvard happiness study

08:34 The hedonic treadmill 

9:54 2. You will have an identity crisis  

10:12 Ship of Theseus 

11:40 3. You’ll probably feel stuck

12:04 Diamond Example 

13:12 Change happens at tipping points 

15:31 4. It never stops feeling vulnerable

15:55 Asch conformity study 

17:18 The neuroscience of fear & hope

19:43 It’s only embarrassing if you’re embarrassed

22:33 5. There’s no magic pill 

24:32 6. You’ll feel torn between who you were and who you’re becoming 

24:52 Janus, the Roman god of transitions

27:18 Lightning round recap

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EPISODE LINKS

⁠⁠⁠⁠• Ship of Theseus 

⁠⁠⁠⁠• Harvard happiness study

⁠⁠⁠⁠• The hedonic treadmill 

⁠⁠⁠⁠• Digging for diamonds cartoon

⁠⁠⁠⁠• Janus: the god of doors, gates and transitions