Blended Family Breakthrough

60. Why are you stuck in a Parent-Child Allegiance? (Part 2)


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This episode is the second half of our conversation focused on the challenging emotional barriers many bio-parents face in blended families.  Often these barriers lead to a dynamic called a parent-child allegiance.

If you missed the last episode, you may want to go back and listen to Episode 59 first — then come back here to catch the second half of the conversation where we'll talk about moving beyond those barriers and breaking free of parent-child allegiances.

And in the coming weeks, keep an eye out for our upcoming discussion around the 'easy wrong turns' that step-parents can make in this challenging dynamic  — plus some practical steps that can help both of you work together and overcome a parent-child allegiance.

In This Episode You'll Discover:

  • Two motivating factors that helped Kim move beyond guilt and fear
  • How authoritative skill building can boost confidence to help overcome parental insecurities — and reclaim parental authority
  • The importance of courageously taking short-term risks that'll result in long-term benefits 
  • The problem with comparing and ranking "Love" - and how to handle it well
  • Practical steps to identify and capture emotional barriers and move forward   

Resources from this Episode:

  • Episode 49:  Should Your Highest Priority be Your Marriage…or Your Kids?
  • Episode 21:  What is the Stranded Stranger & Trapped Teammate Experience?
  • BOOK:  The Smart Stepfamily by Ron Deal
  • Blog: How to Move Beyond Painful Guilt and Regret
  • Blog: Two Simple Steps to Move Past Paralyzed Parenting
  • BOOK:  Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline & Jim Fay
  • Online Resources, Classes & Webinars:  Parenting with Love & Logic 
  • Episode 4:  Can you overcome your parenting-style differences? 
  • Blog:  How to Parent as a Team and Steer Clear of Power Struggles 

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