(00:06) #1 Get some objectivity

(01:35) #2 Use 3rd person perspective

(03:24) #3 "What is the purpose of this communication?"

(05:07) Be careful not to overuse "The Narcissist" label

(07:03) #4 "Does this interaction have the classical hallmarks of Cluster B?"

(10:10) #5 See if you perceive the interaction differently when the flashback has passed

(11:05) #6 Look for consistency over time of abusiveness

(13:18) #7 If you're asking the question and doing the research, it's probable that you're facing Cluster B abuse