Getting back in the saddle? I love that for you. But here’s the truth: staying on track takes more than motivation. If you’ve been craving a fresh start but don't know where to start, this episode is for you. We’re breaking down 8 of the most common ways people sabotage their own progress—from relying too much on discipline to using self-hate as fuel. Whether you have a big dream or just want to get unstuck, you deserve to enter your next chapter with eyes wide open. Let’s talk about the philosophy and psychology of making a comeback stick. 

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

02:40 Eight ways to sabotage a comeback

03:22 1. Believing you're behind

06:19 2. Being apologetic about what you want

07:18 You hold yourself back when you move in silence

08:41 You're being judgmental when you assume people are judging you

10:28 3. Underestimating the subconscious mind

10:45 The neuroscience of manifestation

12:46 Self-deprecation is manifesting too

14:37 4. Focusing only on your how & not your why

14:47 Nietzsche's will to power

15:20 Chasing superficial whys

17:14 5. Underestimating the power of small changes

19:38 Results are a lagging measure of effort (James Clear)

21:30 6. Focusing on what you can't control

21:55 Amor Fati: loving your fate (Nietzsche)

23:22 PS: My book MAKE BELIEVE is out now

24:05 Stop feeling bad for yourself for not figuring it out sooner

25:58 7. Waiting until you're ready to start

26:30 Hiding in the planning phase

26:51 The confidence-competence loop

27:50 8. Using self-hate as fuel

29:56 Lightning round recap

30:56 Give yourself some credit

EPISODE LINKS

Michigan State Study on accountability⁠

Mind Magic by Dr. James Doty

Study using fMRI showing impact of visualization on motor cortex

The Gay Science by Friedrich Nietzsche

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