Conversations from the Heart

#9 - Natural Giving vs. Coercion


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In our latest podcast episode, we explore the intricate dance between coerced and natural giving. I talk briefly about the spiritual underpinnings of my work and my deep commitment to helping you trust your inner authority. We dive into some real-life situations, including someone who finds it difficult to nurture herself in front of her mother and the delicate balance of giving and receiving in our relationships. We also cover resentment and how to acknowledge our needs without judging them. These conversations are as raw and real as they get! Let's journey together towards more compassion, understanding, and nonviolent communication.

Show notes:
[1:10] The difference between coerced and natural giving
[7:36] What does natural giving sound like in practice? 
[12:54] How to say no when a yes represents self-sacrifice, without harming your connection
[14:43] Scripts for saying yes or no to requests from others 
[19:15] Someone shares that they did what bothers them to another person
[22:14] How to honor your feelings and needs when you've learned to suppress them around certain people
[33:50] Where to get help with healing family systems 
[36:03] How to handle bullies
[44:43] How to have clarity on what you can and cannot change, and conflict avoidance
[46:54] How to address shame and rebuild relationships
[53:48] Outro

Join me Aug. 14th for my Truth Over Comfort Mini-Workshop. This is a game changer if you're longing for a way to show up authentically especially around people who might not understand. We'll discuss helpful strategies designed to facilitate your next sticky conversation.

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