Today I explain why we naturally doubt ourselves (even when things are going well), how this tends to show up, and four tools you can use to change your perspective so you don’t let doubt get in the way. Today’s episode will impact all areas of your life, not just your drinking.

And if you want to start making change immediately, let’s talk.

I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. 

You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. 

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Today we’re talking dead end questions, what they are how to spot yours and why they don’t serve you.

I also share simple steps you can take today to figure out if you’re relying on dead end questions and to see how they are influencing your results. I also give you some simple, short homework to help you get unstuck and out of dead end questioning mode.

So if you are somebody who feels like they’ve been trying to get on top of their drinking for years and absolutely nothing is helping, this episode is for you. In just a few short minutes you’ll learn a technique that will get you unstuck and have you taking massive action towards what you do want.

And if you want help to achieve your drinking goals FAST, hire me. You want to stop overdrinking; I help people do just that. Let's talk.

I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. 

You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and let’s get to work: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult⁠⁠⁠⁠

I just can’t moderate is something I hear all the time. Part cry for help/part excuse it is a frequent fallback position when things go badly.

When people talk about moderation it’s usually a number. It’s two drinks or four drinks or whatever. “If I drink that amount then I’m moderating.” But on today’s episode I explain why moderation is about more than just a number. Why it isn’t about fixating on the counting, whatever your drink plan says. And what to focus on instead.

If you want to be DONE with overdrinking and learn how to drink in moderation FAST, you need to work with me. Apply to coach with me at 90dayslater.co by clicking on the blue button to book a call.

I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. 

You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and let’s get to work: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult⁠⁠⁠⁠

‘New Year, New You’

There’s something about a brand new year for setting goals and aiming for new challenges. But you’ve been here before, right? And still nothing’s changed. You’re in the same life and you still drink too much. No matter how tough you are on yourself or how much willpower you throw at the problem, you still buckle and give in a few days or possibly weeks down the line.

That stops today.

In today’s episode I show what’s holding you back, what’s keeping you stuck and why you haven’t been making progress. I also tell you the exact questions to ask, how to create a new relationship with yourself and how to really believe for once and for all that it’s possible for you to change.

Apply to work with me and we'll get you there fast. 

Dryuary (or Dry January) has become something of an annual tradition to many. I have nothing against abstaining for a month - in fact it can teach you a lot about your relationship with alcohol if you’re open to the lessons - and if you just want to do the 31 days then carry on as before, that’s totally your choice.

But if you want more, if you want this to be a step on the ladder towards permanent change then I want to help you do that. In today’s episode I offer why your thoughts about alcohol are going to make all the difference and offer three ways to ‘do’ Dryuary in a way that will set you up for long-term success beyond the 31 days. I can help. Let's talk.

I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. 

You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and let’s get to work: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult⁠⁠⁠⁠

Just pause. Consider for a moment the power and simplicity in these two words. What does pausing offer? An opportunity to take a breath. To consider your options. To interrupt automatic behaviour. To decide what’s in your best interests. To regroup. To re-decide.

At this time of year, with Christmas and New Year around the corner, life can feel rather frantic. So much to do, so many people to see, so many parties to attend. No wonder it can feel anything but peaceful and instead one long frantic rush. And if you want to change your relationship with alcohol you may feel some sense of unease at how you’re going to get through the season.

This year I’ve put together a practical guide to help my clients navigate the festive season. The subject of today’s episode, ’Just Pause’, is one of the tactics it contains. I’ll cover what I mean by ‘Just Pause’, explain why it’s such a valuable tool and also outline some practical ways you can implement it straight away.

This is a small glimpse of the kind of topics I cover with my clients, giving them the highest possible level of support as they transform their own relationship with alcohol.

I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. 

You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and let’s get to work: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult⁠⁠⁠⁠

I’m afraid of slipping into old habits … if that’s how you feel, don’t worry. On today’s podcast I talk about why this fear surfaces, how it shows up and walk through seven simple ways to stop feeling stuck and keep moving forward.

I work with people all day every day who want to change their relationship with alcohol. I normalise not drinking or choosing to drink less. I normalise choosing water instead of wine. I normalise celebrating with water not champagne. I normalise not feeling the need to “drown your sorrows” when something goes wrong. 

I have space opening up in my 1-1 calendar. Don’t wait for January. Let's talk.

I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. 

You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and let’s get to work: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult⁠⁠⁠⁠

Intention, courage and commitment form the three pillars of my coaching framework. Each of these elements is positive in its own right, but stitched together they become incredibly powerful.

In today’s episode I explain how I use intention, courage and commitment in my work and how you can also deploy them as you transform your relationship with alcohol. BUT if you want results FAST, working with a coach is the way to go; I show you where your blind spots are and what you need to know (which may not be the same as what you want to hear.) To get started let's talk.

I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. 

You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and let’s get to work: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult⁠⁠⁠⁠

When your friends don’t understand why you want to change your relationship with alcohol it can feel challenging.

I see this so often. You know it’s time to make a change, but you’re afraid the people closest to you won’t get it. That they won’t understand.

That they will say things like: “Oh, come on, you’re fine. You don’t need to do this. You’re making a fuss unnecessarily. Everybody drinks a bit too much. You don’t drink any more than me.”

Which can lead you twisting and turning, doubting yourself and perhaps even rethinking your goals.

In today’s episode I explain why it’s OK if other people have thoughts and opinions about your drinking, why this doesn’t have to derail you and who to listen to instead.

I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. 

You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and let’s get to work: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult⁠⁠⁠⁠

We are just around the corner from the big end of year party season - from Thanksgiving to Christmas to New Year, to office parties and drinks with friends and family gatherings.

If you’re frustrated with your drinking this can look like a challenging landscape. You may even look ahead and dread the party season. How on earth are you going to get through all those temptations? No wonder so many people think you’ll wait (again!) to change your drinking until next year because it’s all too difficult in December.

In today’s episode I challenge some assumptions about what celebrations are, explain how you can navigate social situations in a way that serves you and how you have the ultimate control right now as to how you want the experience to be. Without worrying one jot what’s in your glass.

I can help you moderate or give up drinking for good. 

You know what you want for your life. I know how to help you get it. 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a free call with me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and let’s get to work: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult⁠⁠⁠⁠