A Blessing in Divorce

You might be thinking “I know who I am” and then realize maybe you don’t - and only because you haven’t really asked yourself or explored this lately. 

You might be thinking - I have no idea who I am if I’m not “his wife” or a full time mom or something like that - I know I did.

The tools are radical honesty with yourself; self-reflection; counseling/coaching; self-compassion and forgiveness of self and others. And your reward is self-discovery and self-love, knowing your worth and that you are enough.

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This episode was inspired by mother's who contacted me in an effort to provide support to their children who are divorcing. They recognize that the issues are complex and that though they meant well they weren't always saying what was helpful.

I so appreciate their grace and compassion in wanting to be there for their children who are going through such a difficult time. Anyone would be lucky to have a parent who cares that much. This episode is for those parents, but also for you you as you go through this life challenge and want and need support from your parents but they might not be saying the things you need to hear or maybe they are saying just a bit too much. Either way - this episode can help you guide them in their support as much as it can help them. If nothing else you can send them the link.

Some of the highlights:

I am here to help and encourage you to set up a discovery call so we can figure out what would be the most supportive for you right now.

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This is it! Part 6 of the 6-part healing summer series here on A Blessing In Divorce. Create your own blessings by working through your healing with this series. 🤗💖

I would love to hear what you think of this series. It's been fun and will definitely do again. Until then make sure to jump into the new Rising Free divorce support community to learn the tools and discover who you are and the strategies for your healing while you create a beautiful life for yourself.

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Advanced planning isn’t always possible because if the decision to divorce wasn’t yours then you have had no time or opportunity to prepare. And this is true for so many of life’s challenges as these tend to land into our lives with us not being ready.   

But that’s life right? As John Lennon said - Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.  

Today I want to talk about some of the specifics around planning around and preparing for your divorce, your healing and your new life.   

You are here, so this is happening and whether you wanted it or not. Dwelling on that you didn’t want this is counterproductive. Understandable but not helpful. If you just want me to tell you that you don’t have to do anything then you have chosen the wrong episode.  

Did you notice that I mentioned planning your divorce, your healing and your new life?  

Yes - this is not just a financial and legal road map.  It is important to focus on all areas of this journey. And while the financial and legal can feel the most daunting and also the most important - it is likely the easiest as there are so many who can help you and there are specific steps that need to be taken.  

The scary factor is the unknown results, the potential emotional chaos and hostility and our own fear of working our way through these legal and financial avenues that most of us had no understanding of leading up to this time.  

Let’s start with the financial and legal.  If you are listening to this then you likely are going through or have gone through divorce. If you are done then you might want to skip ahead to the part about planning your healing and your new life starting at 16:50.  

Legal and Financial Planning 

Plan to heal 

Plan for your new life 

The focus tends to be so heavy on the scary stuff and the negative things that happen and may happen. So few talk about the good. It’s like we are afraid to feel good or feel guilty feeling anything positive at all. Enough of that!  

This is all within your control so make it happen.  

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There are many parts to a healing journey during and after separation and divorce. That's why I started this healing series and here is part 4. So manke sure to check out the previous 3 and the introduction to the series in episode 83.  Having high or unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others can really get in the way of the healing journey because you are essentially giving your power (and peace of mind) away to the person you expect something from. And for self-expectations - they are often tied to how we want others to react based on our actions etc.  All in all it's a messy business that can cause us a lot of pain. So let's dive into this together and as always I will have some great insights and tools for you.

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Grief after a divorce can be particularly intense and persistent, and many people find themselves stuck in their grief and ruminating on the past for several reasons.

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Last week I talked about understanding and healing our pain story. This week I am talking about the inward journey mentioned last week. It’s a journey that is crucial to our healing and self-discovery journey available to us during and after a divorce.

Healing after a divorce is a deeply personal and multifaceted journey that involves emotional, mental, and sometimes physical and spiritual practices. Here are several strategies and practices to help you turn inward and find healing:

Emotional healing and mental/cognitive healing are closely related but distinct aspects of overall psychological well-being. Understanding the differences between the two can help in addressing each area more effectively.

Emotional healing deals with processing and releasing emotional pain, while mental/cognitive healing focuses on reshaping thought patterns and improving mental clarity. Both are essential for overall psychological well-being, and integrating practices from both areas can lead to more effective and holistic healing.

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We all carry a painstory, a personal narrative shaped by our experiences of trauma, loss, and hardship. Understanding and acknowledging this painstory is crucial for healing after significant life events such as divorce, loss, or abuse. By exploring the origins and impact of our pain, we can begin to unravel the emotional knots that bind us to the past. This process of self-awareness allows us to identify patterns of suffering, recognize triggers, and gradually disempower the pain that has accumulated over time. Through compassionate self-reflection and acceptance, we can transform our painstory from a source of ongoing distress into a catalyst for growth and resilience, fostering a deeper sense of inner peace and emotional freedom.

Triggers of the Pain-Body:

Healing the Pain-Body:

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**INTRODUCTION TO SUMMER HEALING SERIES**

I am really excited to bring you this healing series. I will be talking about what holds your healing back and what can make it happen faster. It's kind of the same thing. A true lesson in perspective.

So, join me for this illuminating, healing and potentially transformational summer series. 

Today is the introduction to the series and I will be touching on the following six areas of discussion that are coming up.

I am also relaunching the Rising Free membership community. I took a hiatus and restructured to meet your needs better. I'm so excited to bring you a whole new experience and support opportunity as you navigate your separation and divorce.

The launch date is July 1st, but make sure to sign up for the waitlist (see below) so you will be the first to know about launch specials, discounts and other exciting events. 

Also make sure to check out our upcoming retreats that also provide an opportunity to do this work in person with me and other women exactly like you. Something so powerful happens when women gather to do this work.

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