Have you ever looked back at your relationships and wondered…

How did I end up here again?

The man is different.
The circumstances are different.
And yet the emotional experience feels strangely familiar.

In this episode, Elisabeth explores one of the most common and painful patterns women notice after a breakup, separation, or divorce — repeatedly attracting the same kind of relationship.

This conversation is not about blame or shame. It’s about understanding the deeper emotional and nervous system patterns that can quietly shape who we feel drawn to.

Because until those patterns are brought into awareness and healed, we often find ourselves recreating familiar dynamics — even when we deeply want something different.

You’ll learn why this happens, why insight alone doesn’t always change it, and what real healing looks like when we begin rebuilding trust in ourselves and our choices.

This episode is for any woman who has ever wondered:

Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners?

Why do the same relationship dynamics repeat themselves?

How do I finally break this cycle?

The good news is that patterns can change.

And when they do, everything about the way you choose, love, and move through relationships begins to shift.

• Why we often attract what feels familiar, not what is healthy
• How early emotional experiences shape our relationship patterns
• The role of the nervous system in attraction and connection
• Why awareness alone doesn’t always break the cycle
• What healing these patterns actually looks like

If this episode resonated with you, there are two ways you can continue this work with Elisabeth.

Private Coaching

Work one-on-one to uncover relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and begin creating a healthier and more empowered next chapter. https://www.theseparationclub.com/work-with-me 

The Membership Community

A supportive space where women gather each week for conversations, healing practices, and guidance around rebuilding life after separation or heartbreak. www.theseparationclub.com/membership 

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Many women quietly ask themselves this question after a relationship ends:

Why did I stay so long?

In today’s episode, we explore the deeper reasons why women often remain in relationships long after their peace has begun to disappear. This conversation isn’t about blame or regret — it’s about understanding the powerful forces of loyalty, hope, fear, and conditioning that influence our decisions.

As International Women’s Day approaches, this episode is also a reflection on the courage it takes for women to rebuild their lives and begin again.

If you are in the middle of a difficult chapter right now, I hope this conversation reminds you that healing and new beginnings are always possible.

In This Episode

• Why women are often conditioned to hold relationships together
• The role hope plays in keeping us in situations longer than we wish
• The fear of the unknown that can make leaving feel impossible
• The quiet moment when many women realize something must change
• Reclaiming your life after the end of a relationship

Work With Me

If you are navigating separation, divorce, or a major life transition and would like guidance and support, I offer coaching and community designed specifically for women rebuilding their lives.

You can learn more about working together here:
https://www.theseparationclub.com/workwithme 

Rising Sisterhood Community & Membership

If you’re looking for gentle support along with coaching in a group setting, the Rising Sisterhood membership is perfect for you. Meet every week for support, guidance, moon rituals, breathwork, meditation, coaching and more. Enjoy friendship and a safe space to voice your feelings and challenges. Receive the tools and support you crave and deserve.

Learn more here:
www.theseparationclub.com/membership 

Connect With Me

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@elisabethjoy444

Website:
www.theseparationclub.com

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There comes a point where you’re no longer tired because you’re doing too much —
you’re tired because you’ve been carrying too much of everyone else.

In this episode, we talk about the quiet exhaustion so many women experience after emotional upheaval — the kind that comes from over-explaining, over-giving, and constantly putting yourself last in order to keep the peace.

We explore how losing touch with your own needs slowly erodes your energy, your self-respect, and your sense of self… and why learning to pause, listen inward, and honour your own limits is not selfish — it’s essential.

Inside the membership this week, we had a powerful live conversation about boundaries, the power of saying no, and why it feels so difficult for so many women — especially when you’ve been through heartbreak, betrayal, or major life change.

And next week, we’ll continue this conversation by looking at emotional exhaustion - what it really is, why rest alone doesn’t fix it, and how reclaiming yourself begins from the inside out.

If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, disconnected, or quietly overwhelmed, this episode is an invitation to come back to yourself.

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In this episode, we talk about the quiet, powerful practice of speaking your truth to yourself and why it’s one of the most important steps in healing. When we’ve spent years coping, caretaking, or surviving emotional misalignment and loss, it’s easy to lose touch with our inner voice. This conversation explores how honesty creates safety, how the body holds truth, and how reconnecting with yourself is not about becoming someone new, but remembering who you’ve always been. If you’re feeling disconnected, unsure, or longing to trust yourself again, this episode is for you.

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We did not have kids to find ourselves in a situation where we are sharing time with them with someone we no longer want to live with or who has chosen to not live with us. It's hard and sad and all the things. I see you and I get it. I hated walking past the empty bedrooms on the nights that they were with their dad. AND I also know how important their relationship with him was.

Let's talk about it.

And for those of you who want more support around, I have opened 3 one-on-one coaching spots for January. And if you are looking for more group support as well as friendship and community, then the Rising Sisterhood membership is perfect for you. All the details are below.

My friend, you do not have to do this alone if you don't want to.

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January sees an increase of approximately 30% in calls to divorce lawyers. Is it because people are making new year's resolutions to get divorced, or did they wait until after the holidays before making the move. Both are most likely true. 

And while January is a month for resolutions, goals and intention setting - I would like to invite you to focus on something different this month - YOU. 

What if instead of forced productivity and goal setting we attune with nature and allow ourselves to rest and sit in stillness. It is during this time we can become clear on what our goals are and what kind of life we want to call in and work towards. Just like the earth is currently sleeping and resting for spring growth, so can we. 

And if you are already in the throws of divorce and needing to make all kinds of big decisions etc right now, then make sure to get the guidance, support and community you want and crave here in The Separation Club. I have opened up my calendar to three new one on one clients this month and the Rising Sisterhood group support membership is currently open for new members. We would love for you to join our weekly live calls. More information below.

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There’s something about this time of year.
The lights, the gatherings, the way the air itself feels full of both memory and expectation.
For many, it’s a season of connection and dinners, rituals and familiar traditions.
But for many others, maybe for you this year, it’s also a time that triggers memories and sadness.

Maybe you feel the absence of someone who used to be there.
Maybe the family table looks different now.
Maybe you’re navigating co-parenting, a smaller family, a quiet house, or too many invitations when you crave stillness.

Wherever you find yourself this season, I want to remind you; you’re not alone in those feelings.
This episode is for the hearts that hold both gratitude and grief and for the women who are learning that peace isn’t found in perfection, it’s found in presence and authenticity.

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When we’ve been hurt, our instinct is to retreat, to heal in private and protect our hearts. But true healing doesn’t happen in isolation. It happens when we are witnessed gently, without judgment and reminded that we are not alone.

In this episode, I explore the deep human need to belong and the medicine that comes when we allow ourselves to be seen. You’ll learn why connection is essential for healing, how shame dissolves in the presence of compassion, and what it truly means to be “held” by another soul.

Also, we discuss the difference between fitting in and belonging and how circles of women, sisterhood and a shared truth heals us.

If you’ve been craving connection in your healing, this episode will remind you that you are not alone and that belonging is part of your becoming.

🌙 Join us inside The Rising Sisterhood Circle (membership), where we gather weekly for live healing calls, conversation, and support. Next week’s call is all about Belonging and being witnessed in your healing. During this call we will share our truth and also tools for healing and creating belonging in our lives.
👉 Link to join is below.

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Today's episode is about stories. Stories of heartbreak, betrayal, grief and generally the human experience.

We all have them. Stories about what happened to us, about who we are now, about what we’ve lost. And those stories can feel heavy, like they define us. But here’s the beautiful truth: stories can change. We just have to learn to rewrite them and be willing to. We don’t erase what happened… but we shift the perspective. And that shift can change everything.

Today we chat about how these stories impact us and how we can rewrite them. And for a deeper dive into this work and more about where our stories come from check out the series I did on this starting with Episode 83 right here on A Blessing in Divorce.

Also make sure to sign up for the free healing circle happening on Oct. 7th. Link is below.

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If you’ve ever had the experience of sitting with a friend, or several, and realizing that being witnessed, being heard, already made you feel lighter… then this episode is for you. 

In today’s world, so many of us are walking through heartbreak, through transitions, through loss, completely alone. We forget that our mothers, our grandmothers, our ancestors, never carried their pain in isolation. They gathered. Around fires, at temples, in kitchens, in fields, under the moon - anywhere and everywhere. So today, I want to take you on a little journey into that lineage and remembering. Because when we remember where we come from, we can also remember how we’re meant to heal.

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