In this episode, Hayes writes a letter to IMPENDING 50-YEAR-OLD-VIRGIN, who is in her mid-20s and feels embarrassed...about everything. We talk about shame and how to wrangle it, and model what a truly loving conversation with yourself feels like. Thanks for listening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

In this episode, Hayes writes a letter to IMPENDING 50-YEAR-OLD-VIRGIN, who is in her mid-20s and feels embarrassed...about everything. We talk about shame and how to wrangle it, and model what a truly loving conversation with yourself feels like. Thanks for listening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Hayes writes a letter to IMPENDING 50-YEAR-OLD-VIRGIN, who is in her mid-20s and feels embarrassed...about everything. We talk about shame and how to wrangle it, and model what a truly loving conversation with yourself feels like. Thanks for listening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices" rel="noopener noreferrer">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

A Conversation with Shame

Hello Hayes is an advice column podcast. 

Originally known for her advice column on TikTok, Hayes brings a clear, curious, and emotionally intelligent voice to long-form audio. Her work — featured in BuzzFeed, The New York Times, and CBS — explores the questions beneath the surface: Who am I, really? What gets in the way of that? And how do I keep showing up as someone I recognize?

This isn’t about self-help shortcuts or expert advice. It’s about asking the right questions, honoring your process, and knowing you’re not alone in it. Whether you’re navigating a major life shift or craving more clarity in the everyday, Hello Hayes is here to help you feel supported, capable, and curious about who you’re becoming.

Send letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com

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Hello Hayes is an advice column podcast. Originally known for her advice column on TikTok, Hayes brings a clear, curious, and emotionally intelligent voice to long-form audio. Her work — featured in BuzzFeed, The New York Times, and CBS — explores the questions beneath the surface: Who am I, really? What gets in the way of that? And how do I keep showing up as someone I recognize? This isn’t about self-help shortcuts or expert advice. It’s about asking the right questions, honoring your process, and knowing you’re not alone in it. Whether you’re navigating a major life shift or craving more clarity in the everyday, Hello Hayes is here to help you feel supported, capable, and curious about who you’re becoming. Send letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com

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