In this episode of Hello Hayes, we're talking about long distance friendship: how to make friends when you move somewhere new, but also, how to maintain the friendships that are now separated by miles and miles and miles. Hayes invites one of her North Star besties Matt onto the show to discuss.
References:
Dear Noah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfAzhnguXBc
00:00 Cold open
00:42 Topic intro: Long-distance Friendships
2:23 Meet Matt
4:43 Our first impressions of each other
10:03 Be each other’s biggest fans
12:14 Making friends in a new city
16:43 Scoping people out on Instagram
18:25 The risk of rejection
21:50 How to go from self-pity to action
23:30 20s vs 30s & NYC vs Chicago
24:53 “Do I want to quit?”
26:26 Nostalgia vs regret
28:17 It’s OK to be sad
31:53 Hayes and NYC
33:07 Getting honest about our LDF
35:40 “Is it my fault?”
36:25 Having trust in your friendships
38:00 Inside Out 2
40:10 What happened on Hayes’s birthday
43:00 The challenges of long distance friendship
47:00 It’s hard to say THIS
48:11 Feeling pressure to check-in
50:00 Team Voicemails
54:00 A secret
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