Let’s talk about reciprocity in friendship. In this episode, I answer a letter from someone who’s tired of always being the one to initiate. Then, in the second half, I dive into your rapid-fire questions — everything from how to support a friend who keeps making “disastrous” decisions to what to do when your friends just don’t seem to understand you.

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Her friends say she’s too young to get married — but she’s never felt more ready. This week on Hello Hayes, we unpack what to do when the people closest to you don’t support your biggest life decision yet.

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Let's say you want to build a new life for yourself: make money, have great friends, get to travel…and you're on your way! But what happens when you suddenly look around and realize that no one can relate to what you've been through or where you come from? Are those relationships doomed? Was it crazy to ever think you could be different from where you come from?

In today's Hello Hayes, we're hearing from a 20-year-old college student who feels like the poor friend in every room — and is wondering if she'll ever feel fully seen and understood in her relationships.

Topics covered: friendship advice, class differences, financial stress, college relationships, feeling misunderstood, building authentic connections

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How much should you sacrifice for someone who won’t do the same for you?
That’s the question behind this week's Hello Hayes letter , written by someone who has given everything to her relationship and is starting to wonder if it’s being returned.

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Is it betrayal when your best friend stays friends with someone who hurt you? Let's discuss...

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Thank you all for submitting such great questions on the creative process and writing. This is part 1 of my 4 part Q+A series! In today's episode, we're tackling HOW TO GET STARTED. We’re gonna talk about finding a spark, idea generation, we’re gonna talk about recognizing yourself as an artist or writer and giving yourself permission to be that person, and then we’re gonna talk about being seen by others.

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Today we're talking about discipline: how to get it and how to stop hating ourselves for not having it. This episode is for you if:

You feel like your lack of discipline is the reason you haven’t reached your potential.

You have something you desperately want to do, but can’t seem to stick with it.

You wonder why discipline seems so easy for other people — and so hard for you.

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