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I am not comfortable educating you!We are not all educators and should not all be expected to be. I love talking about boundaries because they make it so easy to see how harmful people truly are after setting them. Thank you so much Jessica for reminding us of the boundaries we are allowed to set!In this episode we discuss:-Why Blackness in the workplace is different-Knowing that it's not you, it’s them-How documentation is key to being safeThis episode is full of gems! One thing Jessica encouraged in the episode and I’ll encourage here again is to listen to understand not to react. Tune in today!The ✨key words✨ for this episode are:Anti-BlacknessAggressiveMicroaggressionsI encourage you to look up the definitions of these words and compare them to the definitions you carry with you. If you need help comparing please let me know.With Special Guest Jessica Pharm (She/Her)www.blacknessandtheworkplace.comJessica Pharm is a free-thinking HR professional with a background in employee relations, recruitment, training, and employment law and policies. In 2020, she founded Blackness and the Workplace whose mission is "to empower Black professionals by providing resources, guidance, and support within a safe place to speak truth to power about the uniqueness of our shared experiences and identities."This episode is sponsored by:✅ BetterHelpwww.betterhelp.com/absolutelynotBetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist.Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month.🎧Tune in:https://rb.gy/sywe7p🔥Subscribe:https://rb.gy/nsxy8g✅BetterHelp:https://rb.gy/u8sv6e💜Support: https://rb.gy/qr4d5r🗓Register:https://rb.gy/howk5cAbsolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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It’s not going down!Thank you so much Julian for sharing your examples and experiences with us! We are allowed to be our full selves in all spaces and having supportive people around us makes it so much easier to do so.In this episode we discuss:-Building your own communities-Controlling how you respond-Being proud of all that you areY’all lots of tears were shed in this episode. The communities we build after being excluded are beautiful and I am forever grateful to the people who have joined me in my community. Thank you Julian for everything! Tune in today!The ✨key words✨ for this episode are:Mental HealthReciprocityEquityI encourage you to look up the definitions of these words and compare them to the definitions you carry with you. If you need help comparing please let me know.With Special Guest Julián Lugo-Castañeda (He/Him)https://www.instagram.com/julianlugocastanedahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/julianferminlugoJulián Lugo-Castañeda is an Admissions Counselor for Multicultural Recruitment in Grand Rapids, MI. When Texas roots meet West Michigan, the church meets “the gay”, and people-pleasing turns to illness, Julián needed a way out. Get ready for a bridge-maker who wants to deliver on how letting go can save your life and how it’s saving his.This episode is sponsored by:✅ BetterHelpwww.betterhelp.com/absolutelynotBetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist.Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month.🎧Tune in:https://rb.gy/sywe7p🔥Subscribe:https://rb.gy/nsxy8g✅BetterHelp:https://rb.gy/u8sv6e💜Support: https://rb.gy/qr4d5r🗓Register:https://rb.gy/howk5cAbsolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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I just thought that’s what you had to do!Pabel spent the whole episode redefining professionalism and breaking down where our fears come from! I cannot thank him enough for being an example!In this episode we discuss:-The true definition of professionalism-The unwritten “rules”-How being your authentic self can change the worldThis episode is tear filled and insightful! Pabel is doing big things with Plurawl and it was an honor to bring the message to Absolutely Not! Tune in today!The ✨key words✨ for this episode are:ProfessionalDiscriminationRacismWith Special Guest Pabel Martinez (He/Him)https://www.linkedin.com/in/pabelmartinez/www.instagram.com/plurawlPabel's superpower is uncovering the story behind the numbers; translating data to stories. He's been able to flex this skill at various technology companies such as Facebook (previous employer) and TikTok (current employer). Although he's been successful, he has met challenges along the way.Pabel's mission in life became redefining professionalism by empowering authenticity. In 2020, he launched Plurawl to bring this mission to life.This episode is sponsored by:✅ BetterHelpwww.betterhelp.com/absolutelynotBetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist.Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month.🎧Tune in:https://rb.gy/sywe7p🔥Subscribe:https://rb.gy/nsxy8g✅BetterHelp:https://rb.gy/u8sv6e💜Support: https://rb.gy/qr4d5r🗓Register:https://rb.gy/howk5cAbsolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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A lot of us know that “vibe”!So often people who don’t “fit” quickly are made aware of it in the most devastating of ways! Thank you so much Phil Mole for sharing your experiences and so many great words of wisdom with us!In this episode we discuss:-The fake state of emergency-Boundaries from a parent of a child with disabilities-How to cause friction in your organization and eventually start a fireThis episode was extremely insightful and really reminded me of how many ways people are made to feel they don’t belong. I hope you’re able to listen to the gems of this episode and truly realize “there will be no parade.” The first episode of 2022 is out and ready for you today!The ✨key words✨ for this episode are:SafetyDismissiveDisabilitiesWith Special Guest Phil Molé (he/him)https://www.linkedin.com/in/phil-mol%C3%A9-mph-b349a413/Phil Mole' has been in the environmental, health and safety (EHS) industry for over 25 years, working as a consultant as well as a global EHS coordinator, where he was directly involved in management of key safety, sustainability and environmental projects. He frequently talks and writes about the intersection of workplace safety with equity and social justice.This episode is sponsored by:✅ BetterHelpwww.betterhelp.com/absolutelynotBetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist.Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month.🎧Tune in:https://rb.gy/sywe7p🔥Subscribe:https://rb.gy/nsxy8g✅BetterHelp:https://rb.gy/u8sv6e💜Support: https://rb.gy/qr4d5r🗓Register:https://rb.gy/howk5cAbsolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments.--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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Remember who you are! I will be replaying this episode on repeat for the rest of my life! Lisa Hurly did not give us room to breathe in this episode! She was giving us tips and affirmations to fill our souls for a very long time. In this episode we discuss: -What Introvert boundaries look like -How a strong support system can change your life -The tax that comes with not respecting yourself Be ready to hear about yourself in this one! This is the last episode of the year and it could not have been better! I love y’all, I truly cannot thank y’all enough for all the support this year and I cannot wait to bring y’all more amazing episodes next year! The ✨vocab words✨ for this episode are: No Accountability Gaslighting With Special Guest Lisa Hurley (She/Her) https://www.linkedin.com/in/iamlisahurley/ https://www.instagram.com/happyhappyphoenix https://www.tiktok.com/@thelisahurley https://happyhappyphoenix.com/blog/ https://linktr.ee/lisahurley Lisa Hurley is a writer and activist whose work focuses on anti-racism, texturism, and destigmatizing introversion. Lisa has been quoted/featured in Forbes, Essence, Fast Company, and on the Nasdaq screen in Times Square. Lisa serves her audiences through her HappyHappyPhoenix blog, and as co-host of The Introvert Sisters podcast. She holds a Master’s in Music Business from New York University. This episode is sponsored by: ✅ BetterHelp www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot BetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist. Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month. 🎧You can listen to the podcast on Anchor, Spotify, Apple Podcasts and more. https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl 💜Don't forget to support Absolutely Not! in anyway you can here: Support the Mission https://www.katrinastrohl.com/support 🎉Check out more episodes here: More Episodes https://www.katrinastrohl.com/blog 📇Contact your host, Katrina Strohl (they/she) here: Contact Katrina http://www.katrinastrohl.com/contact Absolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments. See you soon, Katrina Strohl Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/katrina.strohl/ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/katrina-strohl/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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That shit is hard! Pretending to be someone you’re not is hard and people constantly telling you “it’s the right thing to do” makes it even harder. Thank you Xin Yi for reminding us how tiring “the front” can truly be! In this bomb episode we discuss: -How far back we’ve been “hustling” -Why it's so important to speak your mind -How ageism shows itself in the job search This is the last bonus episode of the year and I’m so happy to share it with you all! The ✨vocab words✨ for this episode are: Xenophobia Racism Accountability With Special Guest Xin Yi (She/Her) https://www.xincereyiyours.space/ https://www.instagram.com/xincereyiyours/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/xin-yi-yap/ Hailing from Southeast Asia, Xin Yi (She/Her) is an IDEAS (Inclusion, Diversity, Equity, Accessibility, Social Justice) practitioner specialising in facilitation and data analysis. She is also the co-founder of the Asian Accountability Circle, a space for Asian-/Americans to cultivate solidarity through accountability mechanisms. A strong advocate for a more equitable way of work, she believes that talent and experience is not solely measured by the number of years a person has accrued but rather through the contributions and skills one has developed, unlimited by a person's age. This episode is sponsored by: ✅ BetterHelp www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot BetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist. Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month. 🎧You can listen to the podcast on Anchor, Spotify, Apple Podcasts and more. https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl 💜Don't forget to support Absolutely Not! in anyway you can here: Support the Mission https://www.katrinastrohl.com/support 🎉Check out more episodes here: More Episodes https://www.katrinastrohl.com/blog 📇Contact your host, Katrina Strohl (they/she) here: Contact Katrina http://www.katrinastrohl.com/contact Absolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments. See you soon, Katrina Strohl Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/katrina.strohl/ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/katrina-strohl/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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Prioritize yourself! Leave environments and people who are not growing with you! Thank you so much Tamarisk for the much needed reminder! In this to-the-point episode we discuss: -What to do when you feel “stifled” -The “interrogation” that occurs in toxic environments -What abuse in the workplace looks like This amazing episode of Absolutely Not! is ready for you today! The ✨vocab words✨ for this episode are: Harm Bias Stigma With Special Guest Tamarisk Locke (She/Her) https://www.instagram.com/namaste_n_ish https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamarisk-locke-810176133 A nontraditional woman that is determined and dedicated to assisting those around her to see the best in themselves. Author and Influencer, writing in a language that is understood without ridicule or resistance. Combining a love for helping others with life experience and book knowledge, while wrangling two toddlers as a stay-at-home-mom. Check out her book here: https://tamariskl.com/products/you-got-me-fucked-up Check out her feature in Blavity here: https://blavity.com/have-a-hard-time-telling-people-you-got-me-fcked-up-theres-a-workbook-for-that This episode is sponsored by: ✅ BetterHelp www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot BetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist. Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month. 🎧You can listen to the podcast on Anchor, Spotify, Apple Podcasts and more. https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl 💜Don't forget to support Absolutely Not! in anyway you can here: Support the Mission https://www.katrinastrohl.com/support 🎉Check out more episodes here: More Episodes https://www.katrinastrohl.com/blog 📇Contact your host, Katrina Strohl (they/she) here: Contact Katrina http://www.katrinastrohl.com/contact Absolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments. See you soon, Katrina Strohl Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/katrina.strohl/ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/katrina-strohl/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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Those are the only two absolutes!While there may be consequences to the new boundaries you set, they still need to be set. Thank you Cassandra for sharing this amazing lesson! In this episode we discuss:-The need to reparent yourself-Identifying unhealthy relationships-Knowing that you always have a choiceThis top-tier episode with the amazing Cassandra Rowe is ready for you today!With Special Guest Cassandra Rowe, LPC-S, The Boundaries Therapist (She/Her)https://www.epiphanycounselingtexas.com/https://www.instagram.com/epiphanycounseling/Cassandra holds a Bachelor’s degree from Texas Wesleyan University in Social Science and a Master’s degree from Amberton University in Professional Counseling. Cassandra is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and LPC Clinical Supervisor (LPC-S). Cassandra has worked as a Student Support Counselor (Crisis Counselor) for Mansfield Independent School District since 2006 and she is the owner of Epiphany Counseling Services, LLC in Arlington, Texas. Her clients have affectionately nicknamed her "The Boundaries Therapist".This episode is sponsored by:✅ BetterHelpwww.betterhelp.com/absolutelynotBetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist.Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month.🎧You can listen to the podcast on Anchor, Spotify, Apple Podcasts and more.https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl💜Don't forget to support Absolutely Not! in anyway you can here: Support the Missionhttps://www.katrinastrohl.com/support🎉Check out more episodes here: More Episodeshttps://www.katrinastrohl.com/blog📇Contact your host, Katrina Strohl (they/she) here: Contact Katrinahttp://www.katrinastrohl.com/contactAbsolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments.See you soon,Katrina StrohlInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/katrina.strohl/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/katrina-strohl/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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There is a difference between willingness and ability!Thank you Tyler Riley for reminding us that some people will not hold space for us but we need to protect ourselves nonetheless!In this mindful episode we discuss:-How to get the ball rolling on setting boundaries-Why it's so important to have “real evidence”-Where the discomfort that comes with change is necessaryThis insightful episode of Absolutely Not! is ready for you today!With Special Guest Name Tyler Riley (She/Her)https://www.tythewordsmith.comhttps://instagram.com/tythewordsmithhttps://linkedin.com/in/tyler-rileyTyler Riley is a Mindset & Lifestyle Coach who specializes in guiding people to think differently through transformative mindfulness practices and programs. She helps clients prioritize their mental and emotional well-being in order to remove any blockages that may be in the way of them living fully. After missing pieces of her own life due to battles with her mind, she is dedicated to prove to clients why focusing on the present is so impactful and to prove what's possible when they start noticing the narratives they speak over their lives.This episode is sponsored by:✅ BetterHelpwww.betterhelp.com/absolutelynotBetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist.Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month.🎧You can listen to the podcast on Anchor, Spotify, Apple Podcasts and more.https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl💜Don't forget to support Absolutely Not! in anyway you can here: Support the Missionhttps://www.katrinastrohl.com/support🎉Check out more episodes here: More Episodeshttps://www.katrinastrohl.com/blog📇Contact your host, Katrina Strohl (they/she) here: Contact Katrinahttp://www.katrinastrohl.com/contactAbsolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments.See you soon,Katrina StrohlInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/katrina.strohl/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/katrina-strohl/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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You should check it!Often we come across people with one similarity and we forget to check on anything else about them. In this anticipated bonus episode we discuss:-Setting boundaries without fear-Identifying biases early on-Resisting principles upholding white supremacyThank you Meida for reminding us that we still need to check the alignment on all levels! Check out this extremely informative episode of Absolutely Not! today!With Special Guest Meida Surya (She/her/hers)https://www.instagram.com/meida_s_/https://www.linkedin.com/in/meidasurya/Meida is a DEI Advisor. She aims to provide intentional and impactful support for organizations wanting to engage with DEI work. She recently graduated from the University of Minnesota with a Master's in Human Resource Development. She has a Learning and Development and an Organizational Development background and loves to talk about all things development, people, and culture within organizations. Meida is also part of the Leadership Team at Asian Leaders Alliance, a cross-company Asian-ERG coalition. She is working from Singapore and believes in a 'thinking global and acting local' mindset.This episode is sponsored by:✅ BetterHelpwww.betterhelp.com/absolutelynotBetterHelp allows you to connect with one of 24,000 licensed therapists in a safe and private online environment. You pay just a low flat fee for unlimited therapy with your therapist.Visit www.betterhelp.com/absolutelynot for more information and to get 10% off your first month.🎧You can listen to the podcast on Anchor, Spotify, Apple Podcasts and more.https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl💜Don't forget to support Absolutely Not! in anyway you can here: Support the Missionhttps://www.katrinastrohl.com/support🎉Check out more episodes here: More Episodeshttps://www.katrinastrohl.com/blog📇Contact your host, Katrina Strohl (they/she) here: Contact Katrinahttp://www.katrinastrohl.com/contactAbsolutely Not! is a live podcast series dedicated to providing examples of setting personal boundaries at work and the vocabulary needed to name harm. Special guests are interviewed about their experiences and what they have learned when having set boundaries. The show hopes to encourage all professionals to say "Absolutely Not!" to abuse, mistreatment and unsafe work environments.See you soon,Katrina StrohlInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/katrina.strohl/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/katrina-strohl/--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/messageSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/katrina-strohl/support

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