Afropolitan

What happens when we stop centering shame in conversations about sex?
In this deeply vulnerable and transformational episode, we sit down with Olawunmi Esan—one of Nigeria’s leading certified sex therapists and educators—to unpack the emotional, cultural, and psychological layers of sexuality that society rarely names.

From her personal story of surviving sexual trauma to helping thousands heal their relationship with pleasure, Olawunmi brings science, soul, and softness to the conversation. We discuss porn addiction, performance anxiety in men, desire discrepancies in marriages, and what it truly means to create safety in intimacy—for yourself and with others.

Whether you're single, dating, married, or healing, this episode will shift how you think about sex, connection, and emotional honesty.

Book a One-on-One Session with Olawunmi
www.olawunmiesan.com/myservices

Take a Course on Pleasure & Healing
https://learning.olawunmiesan.com/products/

00:00 - Redefining Sex Beyond Intercourse
01:43 - Why Ola Became a Sex Therapist
03:46 - The Link Between Shame, Pleasure & Pain
05:31 - When to Start Teaching Children About Sex
10:53 - The Problem with Porn Education
18:32 - Faith, Masturbation & Porn: Complex Conversations
24:36 - Sexual History, Marriage & Performance Anxiety
34:48 - Not All Men Cheat: Reframing Intimacy Norms
42:29 - Lagos and the Epidemic of Desire Discrepancy
46:14 - Olawunmi’s Personal Story of Rape & Healing
53:07 - How Parents Can Create Safe Spaces for Kids
57:02 - Reclaiming Your Body After Sexual Trauma
1:00:00 - Advice for Partners of Trauma Survivors
1:03:24 - Sexual Discipline & the Diddy Allegory
1:08:23 - Why Erectile Issues Are Often About Anxiety
1:12:23 - Men, Intimacy & Emotional Healing
1:14:06 - Rapid Fire: What Men Should Stop Doing in Bed
1:15:22 - Why Planned Sex Isn’t Boring
1:17:17 - The True Definition of Sex
1:20:09 - Final Question: Who Should Sit in This Seat Next?
1:20:23 - Breaking Hypersexual Habits Before Marriage

The Afropolitan Podcast is your passport to conversations at the intersection of legacy, liberation, and global Black excellence.
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What happens when we stop centering shame in conversations about sex?
In this deeply vulnerable and transformational episode, we sit down with Olawunmi Esan—one of Nigeria’s leading certified sex therapists and educators—to unpack the emotional, cultural, and psychological layers of sexuality that society rarely names.

From her personal story of surviving sexual trauma to helping thousands heal their relationship with pleasure, Olawunmi brings science, soul, and softness to the conversation. We discuss porn addiction, performance anxiety in men, desire discrepancies in marriages, and what it truly means to create safety in intimacy—for yourself and with others.

Whether you're single, dating, married, or healing, this episode will shift how you think about sex, connection, and emotional honesty.

Book a One-on-One Session with Olawunmi
www.olawunmiesan.com/myservices

Take a Course on Pleasure & Healing
https://learning.olawunmiesan.com/products/

00:00 - Redefining Sex Beyond Intercourse
01:43 - Why Ola Became a Sex Therapist
03:46 - The Link Between Shame, Pleasure & Pain
05:31 - When to Start Teaching Children About Sex
10:53 - The Problem with Porn Education
18:32 - Faith, Masturbation & Porn: Complex Conversations
24:36 - Sexual History, Marriage & Performance Anxiety
34:48 - Not All Men Cheat: Reframing Intimacy Norms
42:29 - Lagos and the Epidemic of Desire Discrepancy
46:14 - Olawunmi’s Personal Story of Rape & Healing
53:07 - How Parents Can Create Safe Spaces for Kids
57:02 - Reclaiming Your Body After Sexual Trauma
1:00:00 - Advice for Partners of Trauma Survivors
1:03:24 - Sexual Discipline & the Diddy Allegory
1:08:23 - Why Erectile Issues Are Often About Anxiety
1:12:23 - Men, Intimacy & Emotional Healing
1:14:06 - Rapid Fire: What Men Should Stop Doing in Bed
1:15:22 - Why Planned Sex Isn’t Boring
1:17:17 - The True Definition of Sex
1:20:09 - Final Question: Who Should Sit in This Seat Next?
1:20:23 - Breaking Hypersexual Habits Before Marriage

The Afropolitan Podcast is your passport to conversations at the intersection of legacy, liberation, and global Black excellence.
Subscribe and turn on notifications to never miss an episode.

From Ikorodu to Times Square: Tunde Onakoya on Pain, Purpose & Breaking World Records Twice | Afropolitan Podcast

What does it mean to turn pain into purpose—and purpose into global impact?

In this unforgettable episode of the Afropolitan Podcast, we sit down with Tunde Onakoya, the Nigerian chess master, movement builder, and two-time Guinness World Record breaker. From growing up in poverty in Lagos to leading a cultural revolution through Chess in Slums Africa, Tunde shares the full, raw story behind his meteoric rise—from the streets of Ikorodu to the bright lights of Times Square.

This isn’t just about chess.

It’s about:

The emotional cost of reinvention when the world wants you to stay who you were

Fame, friendships, failure, and finding purpose in pain

Building global influence without losing your soul

What it takes to be an outlier—and why greatness always starts in small places

Whether you're a dreamer, builder, or just someone navigating your own season of becoming, this conversation will meet you where you are.

00:00 - Intro
02:09 - Grit, Purpose & Outliers
12:09 - Growing Up in Ikorodu
22:09 - Chess as a Tool for Reinvention
37:09 - The Crisis of Fame
47:09 - Breaking the World Record (Twice)
1:07:09 - Ferdinand’s Story
1:17:09 - Dating, Desires, and Private Love
1:27:09 - Rapid Fire: Books, Suya, and Legacy

🎥 Watch the full episode and let us know what part hit you the most.

📍 Subscribe to The Afropolitan Podcast for more conversations that redefine legacy and soft power across the diaspora.

#AfropolitanPodcast #TundeOnakoya #ChessInSlums #AfricanExcellence #GuinnessWorldRecord #Reinvention #FameAndPurpose #NigerianCreatives #LegacyMakers

🎧 This is one of the most powerful episodes we've ever recorded.

From Ikorodu to Times Square: Tunde Onakoya on Pain, Purpose & Breaking World Records Twice | Afropolitan Podcast

What does it mean to turn pain into purpose—and purpose into global impact?

In this unforgettable episode of the Afropolitan Podcast, we sit down with Tunde Onakoya, the Nigerian chess master, movement builder, and two-time Guinness World Record breaker. From growing up in poverty in Lagos to leading a cultural revolution through Chess in Slums Africa, Tunde shares the full, raw story behind his meteoric rise—from the streets of Ikorodu to the bright lights of Times Square.

This isn’t just about chess.

It’s about:

The emotional cost of reinvention when the world wants you to stay who you were

Fame, friendships, failure, and finding purpose in pain

Building global influence without losing your soul

What it takes to be an outlier—and why greatness always starts in small places

Whether you're a dreamer, builder, or just someone navigating your own season of becoming, this conversation will meet you where you are.

00:00 - Intro
02:09 - Grit, Purpose & Outliers
12:09 - Growing Up in Ikorodu
22:09 - Chess as a Tool for Reinvention
37:09 - The Crisis of Fame
47:09 - Breaking the World Record (Twice)
1:07:09 - Ferdinand’s Story
1:17:09 - Dating, Desires, and Private Love
1:27:09 - Rapid Fire: Books, Suya, and Legacy

🎥 Watch the full episode and let us know what part hit you the most.

📍 Subscribe to The Afropolitan Podcast for more conversations that redefine legacy and soft power across the diaspora.

#AfropolitanPodcast #TundeOnakoya #ChessInSlums #AfricanExcellence #GuinnessWorldRecord #Reinvention #FameAndPurpose #NigerianCreatives #LegacyMakers

🎧 This is one of the most powerful episodes we've ever recorded.

From Ikorodu to Times Square: Tunde Onakoya on Pain, Purpose & Breaking World Records Twice | Afropolitan Podcast

What does it mean to turn pain into purpose—and purpose into global impact?

In this unforgettable episode of the Afropolitan Podcast, we sit down with Tunde Onakoya, the Nigerian chess master, movement builder, and two-time Guinness World Record breaker. From growing up in poverty in Lagos to leading a cultural revolution through Chess in Slums Africa, Tunde shares the full, raw story behind his meteoric rise—from the streets of Ikorodu to the bright lights of Times Square.

This isn’t just about chess.

It’s about:

The emotional cost of reinvention when the world wants you to stay who you were

Fame, friendships, failure, and finding purpose in pain

Building global influence without losing your soul

What it takes to be an outlier—and why greatness always starts in small places

Whether you're a dreamer, builder, or just someone navigating your own season of becoming, this conversation will meet you where you are.

00:00 - Intro
02:09 - Grit, Purpose & Outliers
12:09 - Growing Up in Ikorodu
22:09 - Chess as a Tool for Reinvention
37:09 - The Crisis of Fame
47:09 - Breaking the World Record (Twice)
1:07:09 - Ferdinand’s Story
1:17:09 - Dating, Desires, and Private Love
1:27:09 - Rapid Fire: Books, Suya, and Legacy

🎥 Watch the full episode and let us know what part hit you the most.

📍 Subscribe to The Afropolitan Podcast for more conversations that redefine legacy and soft power across the diaspora.

#AfropolitanPodcast #TundeOnakoya #ChessInSlums #AfricanExcellence #GuinnessWorldRecord #Reinvention #FameAndPurpose #NigerianCreatives #LegacyMakers

🎧 This is one of the most powerful episodes we've ever recorded.

How Breaking a World Record Led to a Million-Dollar Business

In this powerful episode of the *Afropolitan Podcast*, DJ Obi opens up about the highs and lows of his journey through Nigeria’s entertainment scene—from breaking world records to battling personal loss.

We explore:

* The emotional cost of chasing dreams
* His transition from DJ to cultural brand
* Navigating grief, celibacy, and healing
* Setting boundaries in love, life, and industry
* Reflections on turning 40, fatherhood, and redefining success
* The evolution of Afrobeats and building cultural equity

DJ Obi speaks candidly about the mental and physical endurance it takes to sustain an entertainment career, while also unpacking the softer, often hidden, side of ambition: vulnerability, accountability, and the journey back to self.

This is more than a music story. It’s a life story.

Watch now and join the conversation.

How Breaking a World Record Led to a Million-Dollar Business

In this powerful episode of the *Afropolitan Podcast*, DJ Obi opens up about the highs and lows of his journey through Nigeria’s entertainment scene—from breaking world records to battling personal loss.

We explore:

* The emotional cost of chasing dreams
* His transition from DJ to cultural brand
* Navigating grief, celibacy, and healing
* Setting boundaries in love, life, and industry
* Reflections on turning 40, fatherhood, and redefining success
* The evolution of Afrobeats and building cultural equity

DJ Obi speaks candidly about the mental and physical endurance it takes to sustain an entertainment career, while also unpacking the softer, often hidden, side of ambition: vulnerability, accountability, and the journey back to self.

This is more than a music story. It’s a life story.

Watch now and join the conversation.

How Breaking a World Record Led to a Million-Dollar Business

In this powerful episode of the *Afropolitan Podcast*, DJ Obi opens up about the highs and lows of his journey through Nigeria’s entertainment scene—from breaking world records to battling personal loss.

We explore:

* The emotional cost of chasing dreams
* His transition from DJ to cultural brand
* Navigating grief, celibacy, and healing
* Setting boundaries in love, life, and industry
* Reflections on turning 40, fatherhood, and redefining success
* The evolution of Afrobeats and building cultural equity

DJ Obi speaks candidly about the mental and physical endurance it takes to sustain an entertainment career, while also unpacking the softer, often hidden, side of ambition: vulnerability, accountability, and the journey back to self.

This is more than a music story. It’s a life story.

Watch now and join the conversation.

What does it take to build a culinary empire in Nigeria, from scratch?

In this powerful episode of The Afropolitan Podcast, we sit down with Chef Fregz, one of Nigeria’s most beloved chefs and creative entrepreneurs, as he pulls back the curtain on his journey from a passion project to building a group of thriving food and lifestyle brands.

From shutting down his business at the peak of success to launching four new ventures and a creative agency, Chef Fregz shares the real story behind his reinvention—what it cost, what it taught him, and how he's now building a purpose-driven, multi-million dollar empire rooted in culture, storytelling, and vision.

Subscribe for more conversations with culture-makers, builders, and Black visionaries across the diaspora.

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What does it take to build a culinary empire in Nigeria, from scratch?

In this powerful episode of The Afropolitan Podcast, we sit down with Chef Fregz, one of Nigeria’s most beloved chefs and creative entrepreneurs, as he pulls back the curtain on his journey from a passion project to building a group of thriving food and lifestyle brands.

From shutting down his business at the peak of success to launching four new ventures and a creative agency, Chef Fregz shares the real story behind his reinvention—what it cost, what it taught him, and how he's now building a purpose-driven, multi-million dollar empire rooted in culture, storytelling, and vision.

Subscribe for more conversations with culture-makers, builders, and Black visionaries across the diaspora.

Don’t forget to like, comment, and share