In this week’s Afternoon Tea, Sami is joined by Remy Kassimir, comedian, actor, and host of the podcast How Cum. They begin with a conversation about how Remy conceptualized the idea behind her podcast and her experience and journey to female orgasm. Next, they chat about why feeling pleasure in your own body is important with or without a partner, and how learning to see yourself outside male gaze makes sex better. They also discuss the stigma around the elusive female orgasm (and why it shouldn’t be so elusive) and how her relationship with herself evolved as she discovered her sexuality. Next, they talk about how to feel more comfortable talking to your partner about sex, asking for what you want in the bedroom, and some the of telltale signs that you’re not sexually compatible with your partner. Lastly, it’s time for The Four Questions, which leads to a conversation about a spontaneous pick me up going through through a car wash while blasting music (and other things).

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