Hot Mess hosts, Alec Mapa and Matthew Dempsey, get down right giddy during their raw and often x-rated conversation with Dr. Ian Smith, host of CBS’ “The Doctors.” Dr. Ian explains everything from how to eat, what to eat and when absolutely not to eat – all without depriving or food shaming yourself.   Dr. Ian, a graduate of Dartmouth medical school and a New York Times bestselling author has penned multiple books about nutrition including, SHRED: THE REVOLUTIONARY DIET, SUPER SHRED, BLAST THE SUGAR OUT and THE CLEAN 20, and is the ultimate authority on living healthy by eating mindfully.  This lively conversation will motivate you to think about how to use food sensibly, stop eating emotionally and start developing a positive way to better your body.  If you want realistic tips to losing weight and keeping it off for good –subscribe and download this inspiring new episode of Hot Mess today!

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In this episode, Filipino-American actor and comic, Nico Santos, joins Alec for a no-holds-barred discussion of Imposter Syndrome, the feeling almost everyone has of not being good enough. It’s only when Alec is doing standup that he’s free of his overwhelming anxiety because he’s in control. Nico reveals the paralyzing fear he experiences auditioning for big roles, like the mega hit romantic comedy Crazy Rich Asians and NBC’s “Superstore”, something he has never talked about before. The comedic actor says he is scared to fail and scared to succeed. When he does win a part, he is sure he’ll get fired.

Another story Nico hasn’t told is the horrifying experience of losing his eyesight while just beginning to work on an Off-Broadway play. What started with haziness in one eye, got worse as rehearsals went on. He would eventually go blind during one performance. Luckily he was treated and has regained much of his sight, but it fed into his anxieties about not being good enough to do the work he loved. 

 Psychotherapist and co-host, Matthew Dempsey says the feeling of not being good enough, or of being a fraud, is common. He jumps in with good advice for all of us: “Your fear is not you. It’s a part of you. Think of success as an island and enjoy it. You deserve it.” If you’ve ever felt inadequate to the task at hand, this is the show you should hear and take to heart.

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In today’s podcast of Hot Mess, HBO’s “We’re Here” star Bob the Drag Queen gets real about the on-going struggle of trans lives, our harsh political climate – as he queries: “Is this country really great again?” and reveals his fabulous new podcast which will dissect every film Whoopie Goldberg has ever made. Hilarity and heartbreak fill this discussion, as hosts, Alec Mapa and Dr. Matthew Dempsey, share stories with their guest about how the world of drag has taken on politics, and exposed its tragedies and triumphs in all cultures, specifically challenges for Native American Two-Spirits. As the three get side tracked and silly – they all come to the same realization: Dr. Matthew would not make a pretty drag queen and end with the most important hot message of all: Vote, vote, vote! If you have ever had questions about drag, trans lives or just want to laugh—download and subscribe today’s off-the-rails episode of Hot Mess!

 

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In this episode, Alec Mapa introduces his pal comedian Cole Escola to Hot Mess co-host Dr. Matthew Dempsey. Alec and Cole revel in personal self-deprecation and reveal hilarious moments when they both endured horrible panic attacks and anxiety—spoiler alert: Cole once shouted on the street like a crazy man until his former partner allowed him into this home. This over-the-top conversation is laced with brutal honesty, heartwarming vulnerability and brilliant words of wisdom from all three guys. Cole shares how he went from co-dependent relationships to building positive strategies using 12-step tools and focusing on his talents, writing and performing, to channel his energy into a healthier place.  This episode will not only make you laugh, but provide you with the confidence to know whatever you’re facing, you’re not the only Hot Messin town, and there is always opportunity to get to a better place and love yourself!

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In this episode of Hot Mess, hosts comedian Alec Mapa and Dr. Matthew Dempsey get deep with Emmy Award winning comedy writer Bruce Vilanch – the brilliant voice behind the Oscars and iconic stars like Bette Midler and Whoopi Goldberg. They discuss a range of issues from being gay in Hollywood, the Vietnam war draft, and the Covid19 pandemic and how radical acceptance has become a necessary tool in their lives. While radical acceptance teaches us tolerance skills designed to keep trauma from turning into suffering, they playfully talk about gay cruises, why one of them recently pooped their pants (download this podcast to find out which one) and the ways they cope with painful issues. For lots of laughs and tips on accepting what you can’t change – tune into this HOT MESS today.

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Today’s topic Cancel Culture gets Hot Mess hosts, Alec Mapa and Dr. Matthew Dempsey, hot and bothered, as they discuss with their guest, Netflix’ “Queer Eye” Karamo Brown, about this terrifying new phenomenon. All three guys admit to being on the ugly side of being cancelled and warn that everyone- if you dig deep enough, is at risk of being a target. This conversation gets very real – when Karamo opens up about, what he thought was, a harmless remark he made on the red carpet of “Dancing with the Stars,” and the shocking reaction on social media that followed. He admits he was shook. The backlash helped him realize it’s time to combat this type of mob aggression and help educate those inflicting cyber pain on others. Alec, Dr. Matthew and Karamo believe the way to best combat bullying is through kindness, empathy and education, but to also stand proud for what you believe in. On this beautiful, and somewhat hilarious, journey we learn why people engage in “mean girl” behavior and develop strategies and skills to kindly combat against it. 

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Hot Mess’ Alec Mapa and Dr. Matthew get down to business with Tracy Tutor, real estate maven and author of the new book “Fear is Just A Four-Letter Word.” The “Million Dollar Listing LA,” blonde bombshell reveals she felt compelled to write this book in order to help others also facing daily terrors. She says making a connection with the people you’re meeting for the first time is crucial. She adds researching whomever you’re meeting, for a date or business, beforehand is huge. Knowing backgrounds, interests and motivations help her to connect in a human way and levels off anxiety. Dr. Matthew recommends making space for fear and not let it take over. Tracy does just that by taking a moment before she faces a challenge and takes deep breathes to calm herself. In this episode of Hot Mess – the take away is understanding you are not in this alone. If you face any type anxiety or fear – this episode will arm you with information about where fear stems from and coping strategies to help you battle it. 

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Today’s topic is pandemic stress!  But don’t stress, ‘cause Kym Whitley’s in the house!  That’s right!  In this episode, the comedic actress keeps it real on everything from finding love during Corona to why she was recently rushed to the hospital.  Kym holds nothing back and shares how she’s raising her 9-year-old son Joshua during these stressful times.  As racial tensions rise in this country, Kym opens up about the emotional moment her son realized his race and asked if he’ll end up like George Floyd.  Alec admits his son doesn’t feel safe on the streets and shares his biggest secret to coping as a parent during a pandemic.  Kym admits she’s an enabling parent and hopes to see her 86-year-old Dad soon.  Find out her hot message of the day and why women should take off their bras and why Alec can’t eat ice cream anymore!   Be sure to check out Kym’s podcast “Two Funny Mamas” with Sherri Shepherd.

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In this week’s episode, Alec and Matthew talk to the very funny Dulce Sloan, a comedian and correspondent on Comedy Central’s “The Daily Show” with Trevor Noah.  Dulce gets open and honest about Black Mental Health and the stigma in the black community surrounding the notion of going to therapy.  Dulce was raised in a community that puts the welfare of black men before her own and admits she looks for mental health support within her own circle—for free!  Self-care is something she’s still processing and reveals the one thing it would take for her to actually go to a therapist.  Alec gets candid about his own personal journey with therapy and the importance that his son go to a black therapist.  Does it matter the race of your therapist and how does that play into the healing process?  Alec and Dulce dish on their recent experience working together on a film in Puerto Rico and her big on-set crush.  Dulce shares her desire to be a Mom one day and reminds us all to check on your friends…even your strong ones!

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How does being a parent magnify who you really are?  In this week’s episode, Alec and Matthew breakdown the psychology of what it means to be a parent and shed light on the layers parenthood with comedian and actress Sandra Bernhard.  The “Sandyland” SiriusXM radio host talks about why she decided to become a Mom later in life at 43 years old and how it changed her overall mindset.  The outspoken actress reveals her selfless parenting style as a famous mom and how she was able to balance her family life and career.  Sandy is working from her home recording her radio show but says she misses interacting with people on the road.  Her 22-year-old daughter is back at home and admits it’s a learning process being under one roof as a family during quarantine.   Alec shares his own personal journey navigating his way through parenthood and recounts the adoption process with his husband for his son Zion.  Sandra, who plays the compassionate role of Nurse Judy on “Pose”, reveals the surprising way she got the role and describes the overwhelming feeling of playing a character who hits close to home for her.  Find out Sandra’s “Hot message” of the day and how Alec was brainwashed by Lesbians!  Say what now?  

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