If you’re going through a divorce, you’ve likely fallen into what David Emerald Womeldorff calls the Dreaded Drama Triangle or DDT.

But this framework keeps you and your ex focused on your problems rather than the outcomes you want.

So, what is the antidote to the toxicity of DDT? How do you shift out of fear and reactivity into creativity and empowerment?

David is the Creator-in-Chief of The Empowerment Dynamic and Cofounder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. He is also the bestselling author many books, including The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, David joins Katherine to explain the concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle, exploring how the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT.

David describes why we fall into the roles of victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce and challenges us to leverage The Empowerment Dynamic as an antidote to DDT.

Listen in for David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce and learn how to disrupt the pattern of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation!

Topics Covered

The concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it works

What differentiates victimhood from victimization

How the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT

Why we fall into our roles as victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce

How The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) serves as an antidote to the DDT

The TED roles of creator, challenger and coach

Why it’s challenging to shift our focus from problems to outcomes

David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce

Disrupting the patten of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation

Connect with David Emerald Womeldorff

Center for the Empowerment Dynamic:

https://theempowermentdynamic.com/#updates

The Empowerment Dynamic on Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/theempowermentdynamic

David on LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected]

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald:

https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802

The Karpman Drama Triangle:

https://karpmandramatriangle.com/

Karen Horney’s Interpersonal Theory of Adjustment:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34748442/

Oprah Interview with Adele:

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=432173685235996