When we're dating someone new, the rush is electric. The pull towards sex can feel immediate, an almost magnetic urge to rip each other's clothes off.

But as the years stretch on and the demands of life ramp up, sex becomes just one more activity on a chaotic checklist; competing with the demands of chores, kids and sleep.

And when the urge does strike, it's intimacy vs. doom scrolling in bed, and somehow, the phone wins every time.

Yumi Stynes meets women who are trying to wriggle free from a sex rut and carve out time for more and better sex. Plus, sex therapist Georgia Grace shares advice on how to bring sexual intimacy back into the bedroom.

This episode will answer questions like:

• Why do people have less sex in a long-term relationship?
• Why is my partner distant?
• Can romantic relationships survive without sex?
• How can I reignite my sex life?
• Should I see a sex therapist?
• What is phubbing?

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This episode contains references to sex, relationships, intimacy, pleasure, technoference, avoidance